This often happens in our life.
When relatives, friends and elders come to the family, they will pinch the child’s face, kiss the child’s face and pat the child’s head.
When some children show expressions of dislike, parents will tell their children [uncles and aunts like you].
This sentence, which parents casually say, may put their children in danger.
Why?
Children’s knowledge of the body becomes blurred.
Because the parents’ words affected her cognition.
When the child touches her body in the face of bad people, she cannot tell whether she likes it or hurts it.
A 10-year-old girl became pregnant. It was her grandfather who made her pregnant.
She said: Grandpa has been touching her since she was 5 years old and told her that she was touching her because she liked her.
Therefore, she did not think Grandpa was hurting her by doing so.
When the child’s physical cognition is vague, she does not know how to say [no]. She does not realize that she is being violated. The longer she lasts, the more she will even think it is her fault.
The injury of sexual assault is difficult to heal all one’s life.
Photo Source: Screenshots of Lin Yihan’s Interview Video
Do you still remember Taiwanese writer Lin Yihan?
She was sexually assaulted by her tutor when she was 13 and continued until she was 18.
In the end, she chose to commit suicide.
Lin Yihan said that the largest massacre in human history was Fang Siqi-style rape. In her semi-autobiographical novel, she assumed the pseudonym Fang Siqi. The novel describes in detail her experience of being sexually assaulted in the past five years.
She has twice turned to her parents for help.
Siqi tentatively asked her mother: “Our family education seems to be available in what, but there is no sex education.”
Mother replied: [what is sex education? Sex education is for those who need sex. Isn’t that the so-called education? ]
If God gives Siqi’s parents another chance, tragedy will definitely not happen.
However, life is without assumptions.
Protecting Children Begins with Parents
Photo Source: Elevator Surveillance Video of a Residential Area in Fujian
The picture shows a little boy in black kissing the little girl after entering the elevator. When the girl got out of the elevator, the boy kissed her goodbye. This happened on January 15, 2018.
Some parents still think it’s fun and funny after watching it, but they don’t think so.
This time I met children of the same age. What if I met an adult man?
The boy’s arbitrariness made him not know how to respect other people’s bodies. The girl’s numbness and cooperation made her not know how to protect herself and resist when she met bad people.
We always feel that sex education is to tell our children that [the place covered by vests and underpants cannot be shown to others]. In fact, in addition to protecting our private parts, we should teach our children to cherish their own bodies and respect other people’s bodies at the same time.
When children can speak, they should be taught to express their feelings. Respect children’s wishes and teach children polite ways to refuse.
From the age of 0, parents pay attention to the cultivation of their children’s education. When they are 2 years old, they take different interest classes.
In all kinds of education, sex education is neglected alone.
However, do parents know? Children can’t draw, can’t play the piano, can’t speak English, but they have to know how to protect themselves.
We understand the importance of food safety, drug safety and supplies safety, but ignore the importance of children’s physical safety.
[If there is really a long telescope, I hope children can use it to see stars].
We think that children are still young, but forget that demons never think they are young.
The more they do not know how to express and how old what is when he is called hurt, the easier it is for demons to attack him.
To quote an expert, sex education is not sex instigation.
Sex education for children is an education for parents to love their children, an education for children to learn to protect themselves, and an education for children to establish correct life values.
As long as you like, from now on.
As long as you are willing, teach your children to learn to protect themselves.
As long as you like, we will start from life together.