If you have the chance to let the baby leave you for a while, will you have what arrangements?
Today’s article comes from a mother who was lucky enough to be free for two months.
During the two months when the baby was away, she and her husband [Sweet Love Again].
I want to restart the gym mode and keep aerobic exercise at least four days a week.
I want to wipe out as many books as possible that I have long wanted to read.
I will take a few walk-as-you-go trips to meet those who have been stood up by me several times.
I will sleep until I wake up naturally on weekends to see if my ability to sleep until lunchtime is still there.
I’m going to enroll in a swimming class and learn to swim.
I want to enjoy myself with my husband…
… …
Yes, I just made such a long list for myself.
Cool!
What will change in life during the two months when the child is away?
Regarding the separation of two months from my two-year-old baby, I started to do psychological construction for myself six months ago and also found several mothers with this experience to ask for advice:
[Which direction should I go to prepare myself?]
I have to admit that after communicating with these mothers, my psychological burden has been completely relieved.
Yes, [cool] is the answer I hear most from these mothers. (Only mothers who have really served their children can understand that this is really a kind of cool in how.)
In fact, all [separated mothers] have the same doubts as me.
The first is the cold sea water version:
I can’t hear anyone calling my mother when I come home from work every day, can I really not think about it? Before going to bed every night, I can’t look at the sleeping little face beside me. Can I really sleep? Every time the video can be heard, seen but not touched, do I really don’t want to fly to bring her back… oh my god, is there anything more cruel in this world than being separated from children?
The other, of course, is the hot flame version:
When you are crazy outside, no one worries you at home. You can go home as soon as you want. I saw the new development of an old friend in my circle of friends and rushed over to meet her on the weekend. You can even cook TV plays all day, watch several episodes and watch several episodes, or read novels all afternoon, which one you want to read and which one you want to read. You can decide your own biological clock, and you can control the time and space for sleeping, eating and going to the toilet … Oh, my God, a free [single] life is a paradise experience. The old people all say that children and grandchildren have their own blessings.
I can tell you very directly, put aside the seawater version with confidence, the child’s adaptability is far beyond your imagination, she will certainly eat well, sleep well and have fun. What about you, who are more dependent on children? As long as you think about your flame version, there is no psychological barrier that can’t be passed.
If the house is too quiet, then get dry yourself!
When I came back from my hometown that day, I was jubilant like a fawn all the way. When I saw the children’s small bench at the door of my house when I got out of the elevator, tears burst out instantly, and I began to wail loudly with my big bag on my back.
Neighbors came out to see my husband looking at me helplessly and almost started to stop fighting.
For a moment, I made up my mind to bring the baby back. How could I stay without her home? But a few seconds later, I realized that this was not a good idea. After crying for five minutes, I wiped my tears and started tidying up the room: piling all her belongings into the room that had been prepared for her and had not been used.
By the time I moved the crib and dining chair into the house and closed the door, I had already decided on my husband’s schedule for the next four weekends.
I’m in love again
If you ask the baby to leave, the biggest gain is what, it must be [my husband and I are in love again! ]
There is no need to accompany the baby to read the picture book with a full face of smile while pressing his temper, while urging the father who is looking at his mobile phone to dry up the clothes in the washing machine for the 100th time. The mother who smoked all around changed back to a quiet and elegant beautiful girl when the baby was not there.
The mother’s mind calmed down, her temper slowed down, and the housework to be handled became simple. Dad no longer needs to be called around, no longer needs to be chagrined that he cannot accompany his children wholeheartedly, and even has to cook again.
Two middle-aged people, thus talking about love again.
If it weren’t for the screen saver reminder on the mobile phone and the small figure floating across my heart occasionally, I would be a little absent-minded. Do this man and I really have a daughter?
We can amicably agree whether to drink mung bean soup or yogurt in the air conditioner of the living room or bedroom.
We can choose to climb the mountain this weekend, go fishing next weekend, or go to a farther place to find friends and meet old friends.
We can choose whether to cook American TV series or domestic TV series after work, or we can write quietly, read books, discuss a few words and watch each other occasionally.
We can calmly accompany each other and work overtime to catch up on the manuscript.
In a word, you will find that the problems that only occurred when there were old people and children vanished at once.
You are still the most in love with each other in the world, and you still firmly believe that no one can live without each other in this life.
Do you wonder if you really had the idea of divorce from him? Did you really have such a quarrel with him?
The feelings after life experience, In this way, in the interval when the old man and the child leave, there is time and space to taste carefully. This is like an altar of wine that has just passed through a period of hoarding. Take out some specially for you to taste carefully. The mellow aroma of this wine is different from that before hoarding, just as your feelings are different from those before giving birth.
Without those days of chicken feathers, without those entanglements and quarrels about the details of life, your feelings will always be less fireworks and less steadfast. But now it is not. This kind of feeling has withstood the test of life.
In such a moment of solitude, you may even feel that only he around you can overcome the trivial matters of life with you, and you are the most loyal and reliable comrades in each other’s life.
You really love each other more.