Skills Training for the Elderly with Children: Confinement

The birth of a new life is a great event for the whole family. According to China’s current national conditions, after giving birth, it is the choice of many families for the elderly to take care of the baby and the parturient.

However, as the saying goes [three years and one generation gap], even the two closest generations will inevitably have different concepts of [confinement] and child-rearing, and there are still some traditional concepts. Although the original intention is for the sake of babies and parturients, it has long been proved wrong by modern science and may even bring harm to parturients and babies.

Therefore, Dr. Clove has prepared a [confinement guide], which not only hopes that the new mother and the new father can understand it, but also hopes that it can be conveyed to the older generation who will become mother-in-law and grandmother. The whole family can read it together, unify the concept of parenting, promote family harmony and reduce conflicts.

Take care of the parturient confinement, which should pay attention to

The daily term “confinement” is about 6 weeks after delivery, which is clinically called “puerperium”. This period of time is related to the recovery of the parturient. When taking care of the parturient, the following 4 points should be paid attention to:

1. Remember to pay attention to the baby… his mother

The birth of the baby is naturally the focus of everyone’s attention, but the parturient also needs to pay attention, [postpartum depression] this is not to say this is for fun.

Caregivers should pay more attention to observing her emotional and psychological changes and give appropriate care in all aspects. For example, they should give a hand when she is too busy and give timely guidance when she is in a hurry because she is inexperienced, instead of blindly accusing her.

2. Diet nutrition should ensure

After giving birth, there is no special taboo on the diet of the parturient, but a balanced diet is needed to provide comprehensive nutrition.

Apart from half-baked eggs and meat, fresh vegetables, fruits, meat, fish and shrimps can be eaten. When preparing three meals, try to match all kinds of food, balance nutrition, and also take proper care of the taste of the parturient and make some things she likes to eat.

3. Help when going to the toilet and taking a bath.

The delivery process will stimulate the bladder, and some may even lead to bladder numbness and inability to feel urination. After delivery, the parturient should be reminded to go to the toilet regularly, and it is best to urinate once an hour or two.

Just after giving birth, some parturients are still relatively weak. If it is cesarean section, the parturients will also experience pain and discomfort caused by wounds. It will become difficult to go to the toilet and take a bath. Attention should also be paid to these aspects when taking care of the parturients.

4. Ensure adequate sleep

During the [confinement] period, the mother’s sleep is very important. Only when she has a good sleep and rest can she take better care of the baby. In other household chores (), the family should () do more to reduce the burden on the mother and give her more time to rest.

Science [confinement], these misunderstandings should be avoided.

[Confinement] Culture is very popular in all parts of our country. Influenced by traditional culture, customs and taboos, some of them do not conform to modern scientific theories and may bring harm to parturients and babies. Elders should pay attention to avoid these misunderstandings if they want to reach an agreement with young parents on scientific parenting concepts.

1. There is no need to cover after delivery. Ventilation should be carried out when ventilation is needed.

Even after giving birth, the parturient is not much different from other people in what. She will feel hot and want to breathe fresh air.

When the weather is hot, you can wear short-sleeved shorts, and you can also use air conditioners and fans. These are not taboos. Generally speaking, 26 ~ 27 ℃ is a more comfortable temperature. At ordinary times, you should also pay attention to window opening and ventilation to keep the indoor air circulating and fresh.

Dr. Clove really doesn’t want to hear any more news like [the lying-in woman died of heatstroke while covering her moon].

2. It is dangerous to lie still. Don’t force her to lie down.

Just after giving birth, although some parturients will feel weak and need adequate rest, appropriate activities are still necessary.

If the lying-in woman has been lying and sitting without getting out of bed, the lower limbs will easily form thrombosis. These thrombosis will move to the position of the heart and lung with the blood and block the large blood vessels, which may lead to life danger.

As long as the lying-in woman feels that her body can stand it, she should be reminded to move more. Appropriate activities are also helpful for her recovery.

3. [Confinement] More Hygiene, Bathing and Brushing Teeth Can’t Be Less

Water exposure during confinement will not cause what, but will only increase the risk of infection if one does not pay attention to personal hygiene.

After production, the metabolism of the parturient is relatively exuberant, sweating will obviously increase, if you don’t wash clean, sweating all over, think about how uncomfortable. Moreover, after production, lochia should be discharged and breast milk should be fed. If you don’t pay attention to the cleaning of perineum and breast, you will also increase the risk of puerperal infection and mastitis.

4. Drinking thick soup alone is easy to block milk, and balanced diet is more important.

After giving birth to the baby, I always want to make up for the parturient. The traditional concept thinks that all kinds of thick chicken soup, bone soup and pig’s hoof soup are food for big supplements. But in fact, this kind of milky white thick soup is just the emulsion after fat is wrapped by protein, with limited nutritional value and a lot of calories. It is not only not conducive to body recovery, but also easy to cause milk blockage.

Prepare a diet for the parturient. Balance is more important. The fruits, vegetables, meat, fish and shrimps mentioned earlier are the focus of the diet. If the parturient likes to drink soup, he should also choose a moderate amount of soup, which is light, less oil and less salt.

5. [Yuezi Liquor] No lactagogue, alcoholic milk is harmful to babies.

Some places think that drinking [Yuezi wine] to nursing mothers or making [Yuezi dish] with wine into dishes can promote lactagogue, but in fact, one of the few dietary taboos for nursing mothers is drinking.

Intake of alcohol will inhibit the secretion of oxytocin, resulting in a decrease in milk excretion. After drinking, breast milk will also contain alcohol. Drinking [alcoholic milk] to the baby will affect the baby’s sleep in the short term, and will also cause the baby’s development to lag behind in the long term, endangering the baby’s health.

If it is inevitable to drink some wine, pay attention to the limit. Generally speaking, do not exceed the amount of 355 mL beer or 118 mL wine in a bottle. After drinking the wine for 2 hours, wait for the alcohol in the blood to be metabolized before feeding the baby.

6. Don’t always say that the lying-in woman has no milk, help her adjust her posture and have a good rest.

There are very few mothers who really have no milk! However, in the actual breast-feeding process, it is true that some mothers cannot give milk, and the vast majority of them are caused by insufficient stimulation to the breast due to the wrong breast-holding posture.

Don’t look at the baby didn’t suck out milk and say that the mother didn’t have milk, just say that she should give the baby milk powder or even soak sugar water. Instead, she should help the novice mother to adjust the breast-feeding posture and let the baby’s upper and lower lips directly contact the areola instead of nipples. Correct breast-holding can cause enough stimulation to the mother’s breast and help the mother secrete sufficient milk.

In addition, take the time to let her have more rest and try to create an environment suitable for her to rest. Only when she has a good rest can she produce more milk.

7. Don’t always think your child doesn’t have enough to eat.

I always feel that the baby does not have enough to eat, which may be the common fault of many elders. Seeing that the baby sucks for half a day but does not seem to have drunk much, or seeing that the breast pump sucks less milk, I feel that the baby is definitely not full and does not have enough to eat.

However, in fact, the newly born baby does not have much appetite. It is only as big as cherries on the first day of birth and only as big as eggs after the seventh day of birth. The appetite for one meal is not much.

When the baby is nursing, the mother’s milk is not all produced in advance and stored in the breast, but the baby is produced with milk while eating. Although the breast pump does not suck much, the baby may eat much more than this.

See the baby eat not full, should pay more attention to the baby’s mental state, urine volume, and weight growth. As long as the baby’s spirit is good, can wet 6 ~ 8 tablets of diapers every day, weight growth also conforms to the law of growth and development, then don’t worry about it.

8. Don’t let your son take part, it is right for your father to take your baby.

Many mothers-in-law live with their sons and daughters-in-law when taking care of their daughters-in-law and confinement. It is inevitable that they will feel sorry for their sons’ hard work at work and will not allow them to take part in the work of taking care of their babies after work. It is even more common for their sons to sleep separately at night.

However, the participation of the father is equally important for the healthy growth of the child, thus depriving him of the right to take care of his own children. It is a pity for both the father and the child, and it will also make it difficult to establish a sense of intimacy between the father and the child.

Whether the elders take part in taking care of the children or take care of the newly-born mother’s confinement, The original intention is for the sake of children, for the sake of the family, Both sides don’t be too stubborn, calm, can have good communication. Elders also don’t think their seniority is high, regardless of the opinions of their parents in child-rearing, after all, that is the parents of the children, and there are some old ideas that really need to be updated, the whole family unified ideas, can help reduce family conflicts, let small families more harmonious.