Tag: Child Psychology

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What about Xiong Haizi hitting people? Three schemes to deal with [the disease]

What if the child hits someone? Severely criticizing education, it seems that the child is still too young to do it himself. Ignore it and think it’s just a child’s unintentional behavior, and worry that he will do it again next time. In the future, his character will become more and more irritable. Faced with this situation, many parents are neither light nor heavy, and it is very difficult. It is quite common for children aged 3-5 (preschool age) to have aggressive behaviors. In fact, from the different attitudes of parents, we can already feel that children aged 3-5 should be treated differently in their aggressive behaviors. Is what expressed behind the child’s attack? How should parents deal with it Read More …

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This [Lord Bear], please don’t tease my children like this.

Parents may have experienced their children being teased by relatives or friends around them. You will not be unfamiliar with the following words: [Your mother is going to have a little brother and will not love you in the future! ] [You were picked up by your mother from the garbage.] [Let me hug you, I’ll take you to eat delicious food! ] … … In this article, we call these relatives and friends [Lord Bear]. Why? Because the practices of these relatives and friends are likely to bring some harm to the children’s psychology and even bring a crisis of trust to the whole family. As a parent, due to his partiality, he is embarrassed to directly refuse these Read More …

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From birth to 2 years old, parents do this to make the baby smarter.

Mom and Dad, do you know how the baby became smarter and smarter in the first two years from ignorance to quaint? According to the theory of Swiss child development psychologist Piaget, the stage from birth to the age of 2 is called the “perceptual motor stage” of intellectual development. At the beginning of this stage, the baby only knows sucking and crying, but by the end of this stage and about to enter the next stage of development, the baby will already carry out organized and planned complex activities. During the baby’s first two years of growth, did he experience what? 0 ~ 1 month, focus on practicing reflex for 1 month When we are just born, our baby Read More …

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The child beat someone outside. Should we take care of this?

When children play together, there will inevitably be contradictions. When there are contradictions, some children like to solve problems with their fists. Some parents will inevitably feel a little secretly pleased when they see that their children are the beating party instead of the beating party. They feel that it is not easy to be bullied and will definitely not suffer when they grow up. However, is this really the case? You don’t care if your child hits you, the consequences will be very serious. What adverse effects will it have on children if they are allowed to hit them? 1. Poor interpersonal relationship and low social adaptability Missouri State University in the United States in a psychological study on Read More …

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How to achieve empathy when communicating with children?

Many mothers may have such distress: when a child cannot speak as a child, I can know through his behavior and expression that he wants what. Why does the child learn to speak and sometimes communication becomes difficult? In fact, this is because with the development of children’s intelligence, they gradually have the ability to think independently, and there are differences in thinking between children and mothers. To truly understand children and at the same time let them feel understood, they must be empathetic. Is empathy good for what? Empathy is divided into cognitive empathy and emotional empathy. Cognitive empathy means understanding other people’s intentions, while emotional empathy refers to being able to feel and share other people’s emotions and Read More …

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How to cultivate children’s self-confidence?

In the eyes of many parents, other people’s children have such characteristics: natural and graceful when dealing with people, active participation in various activities, and no stage fright when performing in public……. In fact, all these performances come from the same quality, that is, self-confidence. I believe many parents will ask: [Why are other people’s children always full of confidence, while our children are always coy and always seem to lack confidence? Is this a congenital decision? ] Of course not, self-confidence is built up the day after tomorrow, and in the process of children building self-confidence, the cultivation of parents plays a vital role. So, as parents, how can we shoulder this important task and make our children full Read More …

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The more good the child is, the more worrying he will be when he grows up?

Do you have such sensible and obedient children around you? They always take their parents’ instructions as the highest instructions. Learning cow force, knowing how to save money, being honest forever, giving parents a long face, love and marriage are mainly based on parents’ ideas… Seemingly clever and sensible, such children dare not express their true thoughts from an early age. When they grow up, some will become indifferent, selfish, anxious about gain and loss, and even violent. In this society that pursues the realization of self-worth, what we really need is what? It’s independent thinking. From this perspective, the better the child, the more worrying he will be when he grows up. Children who are too good are prone Read More …

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Why do children lie? Children of different ages have very different reasons.

This morning, my 4-year-old daughter Tingting told me in an indifferent tone. [You mean what? ! When? I asked in shock. [Last Saturday morning, while you were still asleep.] She replied, and then described the detailed process. [Dad put one of your bras on him and jumped around on the sofa.] In the evening, I asked the child if her father had done such stupid things. Obviously, he did not. We laughed, But I feel uneasy. If Tingting lied to avoid punishment, Or lie in order to get extra rewards, I can understand. But Tingting has often lied and boasted in order to make some puzzling [explosive news] recently, and she never admits that those fabricated stories are false. Should Read More …

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Is the child not paying attention? Most of these trumped-up charges were arbitrarily detained by irresponsible parents.

As a child psychological consultant, working for three years, the most often heard parents express the three reasons for visiting are: insufficient concentration, poor academic performance and bad temper. Among them, concentration and performance are usually informed by parents on their own initiative, and temper problems are mostly discussed with the deepening of understanding. In fact, among the large number of visits I received due to [concentration] problems, very few children actually had attention problems. In the attention screening tests of counseling centers, these children usually showed no attention problems. This makes me begin to pay attention to what happened in what. Is it what that makes parents feel their children [inattentive]? How to distinguish whether children have attention problems? Read More …

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Say you! Please don’t tease my children like this, will you?

After giving birth to the child, my cousin often complained to me about some disrespectful behaviors of the people around me: Sister, I sometimes regret having children. It’s not that I am pessimistic by nature, but that I find the environment around me too bad. If nothing else, take my daughter’s 1st birthday as an example. My mother-in-law’s friends actually used lollipops as bait to teach my daughter to scold me [bad mother] in front of me. After success, all burst out laughing as if they had picked up gold. My daughter is so young that she doesn’t understand what [bad] means in what. All she knows is that she tries to make [bad] lip sounds according to their requirements. Read More …