For their children’s [disobedience], parents can be said to have broken their hearts:
When the child comes to the point where he should sleep, he is energetic and angry.
Children love to desert when they should eat. They are very angry.
It’s still very angry to dally when going out.
However, if you are angry or angry, you still need to solve the problem of children’s disobedience.
However, parents generally reflect that it has no effect to be patient and say to their children [you can’t do this at this time].
Don’t worry, here is a more effective way to deal with it-how to use [ritual feeling] to make children cooperate with you obediently.
Ritual feeling is actually a psychological hint to children.
The sense of ritual in family education will enable children to understand that what should be done in what time and what place, so that children can become independent and develop their abilities in all aspects. At the same time, the sense of family ritual will also enable children to form good living habits.
The purpose of the seemingly [eccentric] behaviors of ritual feeling is to give the child some psychological hints, thus affecting the child’s behavior.
For example, through ritual behaviors such as family washing together, changing pajamas and reading stories, the child will be hinted that it is time to go to bed. At this time, the child will fall asleep under the influence of a series of ritual behaviors.
Ritual feeling, let children eat well
Feeding low-age children is a headache for parents. It is not good to eat, not serious to eat, and it is not easy to solve it by many methods.
At this time, you can try to establish a sense of ritual for eating.
For example, at a fixed time and place before dinner, the whole family washes their hands together and puts all their rice bowls in order before sitting down together to start eating. You can even ask that you must dress neatly before you can sit at the table.
Carefully prepared ritual behavior continuously strengthens the child’s understanding of eating. Over time, he will realize that [eating is also a matter worth taking seriously].
Ritual Sense, Let Children Learn Punctuality
[We can only play for another 5 minutes.] The child readily agreed, but often when the time comes, he looks aggrieved and miserable and asks for [extra time].
At this time, either the child is allowed to continue playing or the child is dragged away maliciously. Either way will make parents or children uncomfortable.
In fact, children of low age basically have no concept of time, and it is difficult to realize their promise in high spirits. Parents should try to guide their children to define time.
You can take out your mobile phone or watch with countdown, give it to your child to set a time, and repeat it to your child many times: “When the bell rings, we will do the next thing.”
When the bell rings, you can say to the child [although I know you still want to play, we have already made an appointment]. At this time, just look at the child and wait for him to respond without any verbal intervention, and the child will make the most reasonable choice.
Ritual feeling, let children go out no longer procrastinate
The procrastination before going out makes many parents feel headache. In fact, the main reason for children’s procrastination before going out is that they do not effectively separate [home] from [the outside world]. They often do not realize that they want to go out, but just think that they want to leave from what they are doing and like.
At this time, ritual behaviors are needed to [cut] the children’s psychological and physical space and give them sufficient hints and expressions [now we are going out].
For example, during a period of time before going out, the child can start to choose the clothes, shoes or even his own small accessories to go out later, so that the child can begin to form the psychological hint of [I am the person to go out next] from the behavior.
Parents can set up their own [sense of going out ceremony] according to their children’s personality and preferences.
Points for Attention in Using Ritual Sense
1. The function of ritual feeling will not take effect when it is used for the first time, so ritual feeling emphasizes persistent repetition and strengthening to see the effect.
2. In order for the sense of ceremony to work, the most important thing is to be able to [a bowl of water is even], that is, the standard is the same for all members of the family, and there can be no special circumstances, otherwise the dignity of the sense of ceremony will be broken.