There is a saying called “You think children are easy to take, because you don’t have a son! “
There is also a saying called: a son born in one child, a daughter born in the second child is the winner in life, and a son born in the second child is…
First, in order to gather [good] words, we should pay attention to having a second child.
As early as 2000, the Korean drama Enlightenment < < Blue Life and Death Love > > had a far-reaching impact on me. As a girl, I extremely envy my brother Joon-hee’s care and doting on my sister Enxi from an early age. It has always made me feel that the combination of my brother and sister is undoubtedly the best CP!
Big money was born in March 15. In fact, I thought it was a boy’s paper before he was born. However, we still gave the child to be born two names, one boy and one girl.
After the big money was born, it showed the endless vitality of boy’s paper. For example, it was so excited after waking up at night that we couldn’t sleep. It didn’t take long for him to wake up. It seemed that only holding him could make him sleep soundly. Before Big Qian was 1 year old, I hardly slept a whole night. If he only woke up once one night, it would be thank God. We had no idea about having a second child because we had been tortured by Big Qian for a year without a whole night’s sleep.
When Big Qian was 1.5 years old, he could finally sleep well from time to time. Facts have also proved that once Eva’s torture on you has stopped, you will begin to seek new challenges.
Second, the day did not meet people’s wishes, and the dream of having a second child was shattered.
Yes, I am pregnant with a second child… we think that if the second child must be a girl, quiet, considerate and not noisy, it can also form a “good” word.
My husband just learned that I was pregnant, He said that this time he must be a daughter. He often touched my belly that had not swollen and called “Little Rui Xi, Little Rui Xi” (the name we assumed for the female doll before Big Money was born). In my heart, I also silently hope to be a daughter. The biggest reason is that I have both children and can dress up my daughter beautifully (this is a living Barbie doll).
A good thing doesn’t last forever, At the time of the 16-week prenatal examination, I was told that 90% of them were boys (the doctor who examined them was my classmate, Don’t worry about the doctor telling me about sex. In fact, 90% is 100%, We all know in our hearts, The remaining 10% is just an excuse. Of course, whether it’s male or female, Both of them are our second babies. But I can feel my husband’s loss. The disappointment of the sudden disappearance of a previous lover. For me, There are no more children who are obsessed with them. A little bit disappointed, But looking at the bulging belly, I think this younger brother in my stomach is as naughty and lovely as the big money in those days. Although my husband did not care so much about this younger brother in my stomach when he was pregnant with big money, he often touched my stomach and pointed to and said, “Since you are a younger brother, you must obey well and don’t be naughty in my mother’s stomach like my brother at that time, you know? “
My husband doesn’t care so much about Er Bao, I can understand very well. When I come home from work at ordinary times, Big Money greets us at the door. When I sleep, Big Money is in the bright place and Two Treasures are in the dark. What’s more, Two Treasures is also a male doll. For my husband, what I can see in front of me is the most real. Perhaps if Two Treasures is a female doll, his freshness will be the same as when I was pregnant with Big Money.
Although both of us still reported our small thoughts of turning the tables in our hearts, when our younger brother really came on the expected date of delivery, even if there was no accident and it became a public event, happiness and happiness still occupied most of the positions in our hearts!
Three, big money in grandparents’ house
Since my brother was born, My maternal love for him was stimulated with breast milk. Before, if money was the center of my life, Since then, there has been a second center. Looking at my younger brother in my arms is like opening a treasure box of memory, instantly recalling the big money two years ago, and the same is true of the big money at that time. However, this time I can hold it completely by myself without anyone’s help. I change diapers at night, nurse and belch. Everything is so skilled, because the second child is also a male treasure.
On the first night of returning home from hospital, the real problem came. How to sleep at night? My younger brother must sleep with me. Can Big Money sleep with us? My younger brother will definitely make a lot of money when he wakes up at night to drink milk. Fortunately, Big Money did not refuse to go back to sleep with his grandparents. At night, my younger brother woke up at night to drink milk. I woke up the child’s father and asked him to help change diapers. He also said, “Big money for what diapers…” and then instantly reacted that the little fellow around me occupied the bed originally belonging to his brother. Both me and his father are like having a dream.
Everything went on so naturally, Big money is used to living in my grandparents’ house, So much so that when asked where he wanted to sleep, he would naturally say “Aye’s family”. “Go back to sleep” has also become the meaning of going back to my grandparents’ home. Although we still think it is very important to take my baby in person at night, for us in this period, the humility of a lot of money has become the greatest care for us, and so on until now.
4. It may be good to have both children, but the two sons are also very warm.
Perhaps you will ask, will the two boys be under great pressure? In fact, any child who is not a parent’s treasure now will want to give the best resources to the child, which has long been irrelevant to gender. There is great pressure to buy a house and marry a daughter-in-law? This has long been an old idea, not to mention the pressure of raising a rich daughter.
Will the two boys fall out? In fact, children in sensitive period will experience crawling everywhere, Graffiti everywhere, Singing and dancing, When things go wrong, they cry incessantly, These are not unique to boys, It is because of the nature of being a child, It was caused by their various sensitive periods. Although the sensitive period of big money did not cause damage everywhere, they also liked to jump down to the last compartment of the stairs, grab things and throw them up. They deliberately threw things under the sofa just to hook them with a stick. Suddenly they threw a paper towel into Grandpa’s fish tank. Asking him questions would also deliberately pretend to be stupid and answer irrelevant questions.
The longer the younger brother is born, the more similar he is to the older brother. Even a lot of money would say to his childhood photos that this is his younger brother, As if to let him go back to the past to see himself as a child. The old clothes originally planned to be given away were instantly washed white and sun-dried and worn on my younger brother. But since his younger brother was born, Give big money to buy clothes and shoes, buy all kinds of equipment, all upgraded to a gear, the reason is that the younger brother can also wear it in the future. Well, this is the welfare of the two men’s treasures. Every time big money puts on handsome new clothes, he will put on all kinds of exaggerated expressions, and the original well-dressed male small crooked can also satisfy Ma Ma’s young girl’s heart!
Although Big Money is not interested in his younger brother at ordinary times, once someone asks him, “Can you give me your younger brother? “, Big Money always said very seriously,” No! ! ! “. Sometimes he is still anxious with you after asking several times. Ask him again why he doesn’t want it. Big Qian replied solemnly, “This is my brother”.
Five, the daughter is a small cotton-padded jacket, the son can also be a small waistcoat
Big money is a real little warm man. Suddenly, one sentence came out: Mom wears shoes, Mom wears a hat, Mom drinks water, Mom eats fruits, Mom wears bones, Mom wears grapes to spit skin, Mom wears nuclei, Mom wipes you with paper towels, Mom I help you throw them away; From time to time, I still care about my younger brother: my younger brother, don’t bite your clothes, bite again and be careful that I will hit you. Brother, this cannot be eaten. Buying clothes, toys, fruits and snacks for him has also become accustomed to saying “thank you ~” to us. Taking him to a painting class, although he was the youngest student in the whole training school, he was still cute and polite and became the center for all teachers to take photos. When he rode a balancing car to pass by the crowd, leaving passers-by with exclamation marks. Even after the vaccination, they will frown and say “thank you aunt ~” to the nurse… the small cotton-padded jacket or waistcoat is obviously not determined by sex, The idea that parents instilled from an early age is the key factor that determines their character. As the old saying goes: when you are three years old, you see old age. Although you are talking about children, children are not only the epitome of parents, but also the influence of parents on children before the age of 3 determines that he will “bear is not bear” in the future.
Six, brother appearance first appeared
During dinner, sometimes Grandma would accompany Erbao to sleep in the bedroom. Big Money would creep open the bedroom door and then call Grandma to eat in a very low voice. Big money threw the ocean ball into his younger brother’s face and would run over to say sorry to his younger brother. Send one of his many cups to his younger brother. In a pile of dolls, just assign several dolls to my younger brother; He even gave up the sound and light seahorse and mushroom lamp that accompanied him to sleep since childhood to his younger brother.
However, there are some things that Big Money will never refuse. For example, Big Money calls the pillowcase (soothing sleeping tool) of his mother’s quilt, his favorite green cap, and the custom-made small bed specially made for him in our second bedroom but almost never slept overnight…….
Perhaps we occasionally talk about the topic of elder brother’s courtesy to younger brother, but we never force him to take care of younger brother or be courteous to younger brother. After all, he is also a child at the age of 2.5 and deserves to enjoy the willfulness that belongs to children. However, the magnanimity shown by big money always surprises us.
The appearance of my big brother reminds me that several years later, the two brothers played football, cycled, ran and played ball together… Well, maybe or definitely they would fight and then make up.
Isn’t all this the only beauty of the two brothers?
Seven, Mom, thank you
I remember when my younger brother was four and a half months old, one night the four members of our family spent the night together. Big money slept in the middle of my mother and father, while my younger brother slept in a small bed. After turning off the lights, Big money said to me: Mom, thank you ~
I thought Big Money wanted to thank us for letting him sleep at his parents’ house tonight. As a result, his reason turned out to be:
Thank you for the little fudge my mother gave me before.
In children’s hearts, the great happiness that adults think is not as good as a little fudge in their eyes.
At that moment, I was very touched and happy.
I’m glad I have two sons.