In the past two days, I saw the news that two children were abused by kindergarten teachers.
The first thing was Nanjing Ed Mei Kindergarten. The teacher beat a 3-year-old boy for 3 consecutive days. The mother of the child found bruises on the child’s body and asked for monitoring. Only then did she find that the teacher punched and kicked the child, hit him on the stool, and finally dragged him into an invisible corner to continue beating.
Another thing is Ctrip’s own hosting class. The teacher dragged and pushed the children. Some parents said that the teacher forced several children to feed mustard.
This kind of news makes people uncomfortable and helpless.
The affliction is because the child is still so young that he has suffered such torture. However, it is because there are too many such things. Kindergartens can feed drugs, beat and prick needles … A large area can be found by searching casually.
The comments on the Internet were all overwhelmingly scolding the teacher, saying that they should be held accountable and severely punished, but what I noticed was another detail:
The boy’s mother found the problem on the first day the child was beaten, but why didn’t she go to the kindergarten for monitoring until the child was beaten for three consecutive days?
During the interview, the mother of the child said this sentence: [I was worried that the child was going to school here and didn’t want to make things big.]
You are right, mom was enduring it at first.
You will certainly ask, why do you have to endure? Should we fight hard with the teacher?
Encountered this kind of thing, parents will be angry, sad and wronged, but most of the time, really can only endure.
Some people say that children can talk more with teachers before entering the kindergarten, carefully judge the teacher’s level and choose a good kindergarten.
In fact, the parents of the beaten boy did not choose a kindergarten. The kindergarten involved in this case is not bad in a sense.
According to online public information, this is a private kindergarten, with a monthly school cost of nearly 3,000 yuan and a year of nearly 30,000 yuan.
Do parents spend more money just to send their children to such kindergartens and let teachers beat them alive for 3 days?
But it’s hard for parents to choose.
First of all, kindergarten teachers’ qualifications are uneven. At present, less than 40% of teachers have kindergarten teachers’ qualification certificates in China, and the wages in the industry are low, which makes it difficult to attract outstanding talents. Before, some people always said that parents do not need examinations, which is really terrible. But many teachers also do not need examinations. These people are people who want to get along with our children day and night.
Secondly, the supply of kindergarten resources exceeds the demand. According to statistics, there were nearly 210,000 kindergartens in China in 2014, of which only about 24% were public. With the full opening of the second child, it is estimated that the national kindergarten gap will reach nearly 110,000 in 2021.
Human scum will not bring their own labels for you to identify, and kindergartens are not something you can choose if you want.
Want to go to kindergarten? Do you have a registered permanent residence? Do you have a real estate certificate?
Is it a direct relationship? Is it three generations of residents?
Did you attend our parent class in advance?
So, it’s good for children to go to school. How many parents have the capital to choose kindergartens? Helpless.
A friend whose family was still middle-class chose a kindergarten for his 3-year-old son, and finally chose a better private kindergarten in the area.
[I heard that this kindergarten can develop individually and put people first, which is different from those rigid public kindergartens. At that time, I felt that our children were introverted and didn’t want to learn anything. It was good to be happy.]
However, after the child went there for two months, the couple always felt that the child was unhappy and wanted to go home every day, but they could not find out why.
One day, a friend sent his son to the kindergarten. It was a little late. The teacher came to pick him up at the door. The child changed his shoes a little late.
The teacher said with a black face: [XXX, hurry up, the whole class is waiting for you, you know, you are the slowest.]
[At that time, my heart was cold. Fuck humanistic care, her tone is full of orders and aversion.]
However, considering that the semester is already halfway through, it will take time for children to adapt to other kindergartens, and friends have not transferred their children to kindergartens.
[I’m going to Japan on a business trip next month. Bring some hand-in-hand gifts to the teacher. I hope I can be better to my children in the future.]
Some people say that parents should seek legal help.
Although after the promulgation and implementation of the Criminal Law Amendment (IX) >, the abuse of the caregiver by the caregiver has been punished, but in actual implementation, it is difficult to define crime and non-crime. Can’t find a real hammer, basically can only eat YaBaKui.
Even if you really win the lawsuit, spend your energy and time, and can you really make up for the harm to your children? Can you really relieve your anger? Most of the most ideal results are that the kindergartens involved are closed for rectification, and the teachers involved are expelled and sentenced.
A friend of mine’s son’s kindergarten also happened to meet such a teacher. The teacher pricked the children with needles and the parents reported the case, but the final result was that the teacher was dismissed and even the kindergarten was closed for rectification. The child did not have any substantial injuries such as disability, which is difficult to operate legally.
For the perpetrators, the cost of the crime is too low.
After the wind broke, the students were still full and the career was still prosperous. Kindergartens that have been exposed to child abuse scandals many times have all gone public in the United States.
And who will make up for the child’s mental damage?
Some even said that parents should reflect on why teachers only beat your children.
Your children, also let others play a try?
Sexually assaulted, must be you wear too little?
Robbed, you must have been showing off your wealth.
Being bullied, you must be too eager to fight yourself.
This kind of ideological violence is really rooted in the hearts of many people.
Every time there is news of teacher abuse, someone will jump out and say [maybe parents also have problems] [the media will only magnify the dark side] [they are just a few mouse excrement stirring up a pot of soup] [not all teachers are like this, you should not frighten parents like this]…
Yes, the media have magnified the problem and made you feel that the problem is very serious. But in fact, the problem has always been very serious, not for a day or two.
If the victims do not speak out and the media do not speak out, you will never know these things. Do you have to pay 30,000 yuan to let the children be beaten in the future?
Patience is not the solution.
After the mother found out that the child had been beaten, she also chose to forbear at first.
She may also have such a struggle in her heart:
Am I tolerant? Or can’t bear it?
If I endure it, will the teacher’s abuse of children intensify in the future?
If I can’t bear to fight with the teacher, the child will definitely have to transfer to the kindergarten. Will other kindergartens accept us?
… …
Feel hate, and be swayed by considerations of gain and loss.
She must have made a great determination to make this difficult decision and pierce the matter.
We hope that these warnings can attract more parents’ attention, give the victims courage to speak out, and promote social and institutional changes.
We really hope that one day, children can live in a society full of more love.
