Being a parent may be the most fulfilling thing, but it is also one of the most difficult things, especially when your baby child is out of control.
I believe this has happened to every parent. What should I do?
Take a deep breath, then take a deep breath, and then try the following 10 methods.
STEP 1 Strangle [threat] in the cradle
Learn to [observe the situation] [look at the six ways and listen to all directions], discover the signs of the imminent outbreak of children in time, and stifle [trouble] in the cradle.
It is much easier to prevent an emotional collapse that is still brewing than to deal with children who are out of control.
Losing your temper is like a domino. Once a small part collapses, the rest will collapse.
Try to observe and master the signs of your child’s gradual emotional excitement, and make this [bomb] become a squib. For older children, you can also teach them to recognize these signs and how to avoid losing control of their emotions.
Step 2 Divert your attention
For younger children, it is very useful to take the method of diverting attention.
Give him a toy or play a game with him to prevent him from losing his temper.
Children of this age are still unable to understand the concept of causality, and it is ineffective to [reason] with them who are losing their temper.
Older children can teach them how to divert their attention and learn self-comforting strategies, such as taking a deep breath. Count in your heart before you speak, from one to five or from one to ten. Or think about happy things.
Step 3: Change the environment
Whether what causes your child to get excited, take him away from the [scene]. Changing the environment can help the child calm down.
Let the child stay with his favorite toy or find a comfortable place to sit.
4. Learn to control your emotions
This may be difficult for children. But children will learn to control their emotions by imitating their parents’ behavior.
Therefore, when you feel more and more depressed or your emotions are going out of control, take a step back, take a deep breath and give yourself some time to regain your mood. Set a good example for your children.
5. Let children know that what is the rule.
When children lose control of their emotions, you need to show parents’ authority, but don’t preach or yell at them.
The tone is firm and clear, let your child realize that this is the rule. When using this method, you need to deal with the problem calmly and not with emotion.
STEP 6 Try humor
Humor is a good regulator. If things are going in a bad direction, you can try to make faces, make jokes and ease the atmosphere. Maybe there will be unexpected developments.
But remember not to laugh at children.
7. Talk to him about how you feel at this moment
Young children often find it difficult to express their feelings clearly. They may not even know how they feel, which will make them feel more depressed.
Help the child understand and express his feelings and ask him [is it sad? [What happened to what? ], tell him that everyone will feel depressed sometimes, and talk to the children about their thoughts on these things, which will help him calm down.
8. Give Children One More Choice
Most of the time, when a child is faced with some things, he will suddenly lose control of his emotions. At this time, you can try to give him a little buffer or one more choice.
For example, when a child wants something from what, he can make his own choice instead of you. For example, when taking a bath, you can ask him [do you want to take a bath now or take a bath in five minutes? Do you want to clean your room now or after watching TV? ]
9. Find out the reason and suit the remedy to the case.
If the child’s emotional frequency is getting higher and higher, pay attention to his whole body and other conditions in what.
Is the pressure on the child or the activities he participates in beyond his tolerance? Have there been any major changes in the lifestyle and living environment recently?
Talking to the children, it is what who is bothering him.
10. Seek professional help
If children frequently behave out of line, sleep poorly at night, fall asleep very late, have nightmares, etc., refuse to go to school or resist activities they like at ordinary times, this may be a sign of anxiety.
If none of the above nine methods can help the child, then you can choose to seek help from a specialist.