After maternity leave is over, mothers will return to work again.
At this time, every family will linger over a thorny problem:
Son, who will take it?
The parents who brought their babies with them envied the parents who had the help of the old man for their ease and labor.
The parents who have the old man and the baby envy their parents who have the baby for their peace and worry.
It is really a response to that sentence [every family has a difficult book to read].
Today’s article was shared by a mother who insisted on taking her baby.
In the face of her mother-in-law who did not help her bring her baby, she said “thank you” instead.
No matter how difficult it is, we must insist on keeping our children with us.
The first three years after giving birth are a turning point in the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law.
On the one hand, the new life has to learn to adapt to the world. Ta will cry uneasily from time to time because he has lost his mother’s protection.
On the other hand, most of the novices who have just upgraded to mothers are also puzzled. They do not know that such a small mass of meat requires how to grow up slowly.
At this time, if the mother-in-law can lend a helping hand, the feeling of providing timely help is undoubtedly the adhesive of the relationship between the mother-in-law and daughter-in-law. No matter how well she got along before, the family will naturally have a warm picture of respecting the old and loving the young and enjoying themselves in the future.
However, due to various subjective or objective reasons, not all mothers-in-law can help their daughters-in-law to take care of their children, such as the lucky grandmother.
After Xiao Fu was born, his parents, who were not happy, suggested that if they wanted them to help look after the children, they must send Xiao Fu to their hometown in Shandong, where they would be fully responsible and we would not have to interfere in eating, drinking, pulling and scattering.
Perhaps the children of relatives and friends around me are all brought in this way, so they do not understand my insistence and that of Mr. Unhappy [children cannot leave their parents].
We don’t agree to send Xiao Fu back to his hometown, and Xiao Fu’s grandparents don’t want to stay and live with us, so this makes me have to face the problem of having to work to earn money and take care of children.
It’s not that I haven’t complained. In the most painful time, the feeling of helplessness and despair can come out of my body and tear me apart in minutes.
The quarrel, the cold war, or simply hiding in my parents’ house and avoiding my unhappy husband, the relationship between the two people has reached freezing point. In retrospect, my heart still hurts.
However, on the other hand, the days when there is no mother-in-law to help take care of the children are hard but happy. Only the mother who takes care of the children can realize these days with tears and smiles.
Mother-in-law does not have children, which can reduce the contradiction between mother-in
[Distance produces beauty] is the basic principle for building a good relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, but the arrival of children is bound to break this balance.
In the past, the two did not live together, and they also turned a blind eye to what’s problems.
If your mother-in-law helps you with your children, you must live under the same roof with you, and the children will become the [defect amplifier] between you and your mother-in-law.
She thinks you are lazy and can’t serve her son as a cow and a horse. You think her parenting concept is old and she likes to manage everything.
When they didn’t agree with each other, they tore it apart, sandwiching their husband and children in the middle. The house was stirred up with chicken feathers, hurting people and hurting themselves.
If your mother-in-law does not help you with your children, these problems will naturally not occur.
It is her duty to come to see the children, but it is her duty not to come. You have no expectation of her, and she will not be involved in your life.
The feelings between each other may never be intimate, but they will not be too alienated. It is good to maintain normal courtesy and courtesy.
The mother-in-law does not have children, which makes your relationship with your mother-in-law better.
The mother-in-law can leave you alone to nurse, change diapers, take a bath, sleep and run the housework without helping you with the children.
But my mother will definitely not look down on it.
This is the case with my mother. During the month, she either cooked chicken soup at regular intervals or took me back to look after the children for me so that I could have a good rest.
Looking at my mother in her sixties and still busy before and after, I must feel sorry for being a daughter. In my heart, I secretly vowed that I would be doubly kind to my mother in the future.
My husband also saw what my mother-in-law did. On my mother’s birthday at the holidays, I gave my mother two more big red envelopes. Naturally, my husband had nothing to say.
In fact, no matter how much you give your mother, she will quietly save it and give it to her little grandson.
Mother-in-law without children is a good time to test her husband.
Who said that if you have a good relationship with your husband, you will know when you have a child?
If the child is taken by her mother-in-law, she will naturally loathe to give up her son’s hard work and will definitely snatch all the jobs that should have been her husband’s. In this way, all the nature of her husband cannot be exposed.
If your mother-in-law doesn’t help you with your children, your husband’s role is extremely important.
The impact of the birth of a child on a family is no less than the reorganization of the internal structure of a family. Whether you like it or not, having children is bound to sacrifice some personal hobbies and time.
No one will take the child after giving birth. On the one hand, you have not fully recovered and on the other hand, you are starving children. All mothers will definitely choose the latter without hesitation.
My mother-in-law doesn’t help me to take care of it. If my husband is another shopkeeper who doesn’t know how to care and be considerate, and complains every day that he is neglected and always finds fault and quarrels, then you must have the heart to die.
It is said that couples who are in love with each other have 100 thoughts of divorce in their lives, and more than half of them occur within three years after giving birth.
The sweet words before marriage are certainly beautiful for the newly married you and me, but when your mother-in-law does not help you with the children, it is the time to really test whether your husband and you are stronger than Jin Jian.
After surviving the three years before the child was born, the relationship between husband and wife will reach a new height, but in reality, there are many examples of Lao Yan swirling in these three years.
Mother-in-law does not have children, let you urge yourself to work harder.
With my husband, it is normal to go out to eat if I am lazy and don’t want to cook.
But with children, the burden on you suddenly becomes heavy. Children are not only your most worrying weakness, but also your armor to cut through all obstacles.
Because no one helps to take care of the children, you have no way out, no way to rely on, and no time to be melodramatic [blue thin, mushroom]. What has to rely on itself.
I dare not stay outside casually after work. I want to go home as soon as I am stepping on hot wheels to see if my baby is hungry and misses my mother.
I can’t stay up late at night to brush the play. I have to take the time to get some sleep. Who knew he would sleep when he was in what and couldn’t sleep well all night.
This is not bad. The most fear is that the child is ill and feverish. Although I know that the child’s immune system is turning on the protection mode, I look at the child’s miserable appearance and wish that the disease was born on me.
If your mother-in-law doesn’t help you with your children, you have to push yourself all the time to make more money and give your children a better living environment. We should also study hard to make ourselves better and become an example and pride for our children.
The process of raising children has also become the process of reshaping oneself.
The mother-in-law does not have children, which makes you live more confidently.
[The hand of a person is short and the mouth of a person is soft]. If her mother-in-law helps you to take care of the children, she is not satisfied with your what. If you say two words that are difficult to obey, you should endure them.
But if she doesn’t like the way you educate your children, it will be very difficult.
The most terrible thing is that children have to face two sets of standards from an early age. The mother says the east and the grandmother says the west, leaving the children at a loss.
The mother-in-law does not have children, you are earning money, and you are raising children. While you are financially independent, your thoughts will also be independent.
Even if the way her mother-in-law educates her children is not pleasing to the eye, it can only be done according to your own.
As for whether to have a second child or not, your autonomy is also in your own hands, and you don’t have to worry about the possibility of having a second child.
Mother-in-law does not have children, which can further enhance the feelings between you and your children.
The mother-in-law does not help with the children, so you have to do it yourself every day when the children grow up. Although it is very hard, you feel very happy along the way.
Especially every year when sorting out the little blessings, the photos taken casually include his every smile and every cry.
Think carefully, even parents can accompany their children for only a short period of more than ten years.
Therefore, I never regret leaving my little blessing with me, but I just watch fewer movies and go to the streets a few times. However, I can accompany him, share with him and comfort him at every important moment in his life. No amount of money can replace this.
If children are not with their parents from an early age, what is the fun of raising children in what?
At the end of the day, the child is your own, and your mother-in-law, as an elder, has no obligation to help you take care of the child.
Of course, the situation in each family is different. Whether to use her mother-in-law to help her with her children depends on the specific situation.
However, whether your mother-in-law helps you with the children or not, the life is your own. It depends more on your own choice to live like what.
And every choice shows a double-sided result. Since you have made a choice, you must bravely bear the result.
In the past three years when my mother-in-law did not help me take care of my children, how bitter and difficult it was, how many tears she swallowed behind her back, and how much bitterness she carried. It was really like a person who knew how warm and cold she was drinking water.
But fortunately, these pains will be cured as the children grow up day by day.
Now, every day I look at the happy smiling face of Xiao Fu and the way I rush into my arms, I will quietly set off happy fireworks in my heart.
Happiness is such a simple thing as hiding in ordinary and trivial life.