The slapstick and quarrel between Dabao and Erbao is a very headache and tangled [international problem] for many families with two children. Many mothers with two children said that the two treasures fought every day and did not know how to deal with it. Their heads were too big.
Dabao and Erbao play and compete at home every day. It is a headache, but they are still satisfied and can grow up together.
Every day all kinds of roar, all kinds of collapse! Dabao is powerful, and Xiao Bao has also begun to be naughty and is close to the verge of collapse! Every day is angry and funny, helpless!
Since having two treasures, Dabao has been particularly disobedient, unreasonable and rebellious. Sometimes I feel very distressed about Dabao, but Erbao is too small and does not have so much energy…
We will ask Mr. Zuo Fei to give advice to all the treasure fathers and mothers on the problem of fighting and quarrelling between the two treasures in the family.
Superficial Problem: Small Age Difference
Generally speaking, the contradiction between the two treasures, which gives the father and mother a headache, occurs mostly when the age gap between the two treasures is within three years old.
For the two babies whose age difference is greater than three years old, when Er Bao began to understand, Dabao had already attended kindergarten or primary school. The two treasures spend less time together, have different interests and hobbies, and have less relative contradictions.
Of course, it is not encouraging Dabao. The age gap between Xiao Bao and Xiao Bao is greater than 3 years old. Different situations have different challenges for Bao’s parents.
Just for the contradiction between the two treasures of Dabao, today we will mainly talk about the relationship between the two treasures with little age difference and the parenting education problem.
Dabao’s Heart Bitter
When Dabao knew that he wanted to have a younger brother or sister, in many cases the baby’s reaction was:
Mom and Dad’s love will be taken away by others!
The baby can be keenly aware that the upcoming younger brother or sister will take away all the love and attention that should belong to him.
This is human instinct, we should not simply blame Dabao for not understanding.
Of course, it is inevitable that sometimes Dabao may bully Xiao Bao because of [fun] or slight [revenge]. Parents must not tolerate and simply reprimand behaviors that may hurt Xiao Bao.
This, on the contrary, may cause Dabao to intensify his efforts due to lack of intensive education, eventually causing more dangerous consequences. We should gently and firmly punish and educate Dabao to ensure that Dabao will never do so again.
Xiao Bao, I am too small to let me! ?
Although both treasures are their own flesh and blood, they will love Dabao and Xiaobao equally, but they will always be virtually biased towards Xiaobao. When Dabao Xiaobao makes conflicts, he said to Dabao [younger brother/sister is still young, you have to let Ta! ]
This is understandable, but it is not conducive to the growth of the two treasures, nor is it conducive to the cultivation of the baby’s world outlook and moral outlook.
For example, we will not excessively connive at the unreasonable troubles of our new colleagues in the company, nor will we collaborate with our younger thieves.
Then at home, the reason is the same. Our education for our children is to let them enter the society better. We should refer to the values and rules of the society.
Who should I protect?
1. To reason and not to people
The more one’s family members, the more one must establish fair rules in advance and turn to reason instead of others. It is good for both treasures not to let one side be too arrogant and the other side be darker or feel inferior.
When Dabao bullies Erbao, he should not tolerate it. However, when Erbao is gloating nearby, he should also criticize Erbao’s mentality and put it right.
2. A bedtime ritual with love
The daily bedtime ceremony is an important link in establishing a harmonious relationship between family members.
Bao’s father and mother can, like Cao Ge coaxing Joe and her sister, sit around the bed with the two treasures after the warm story and before going to bed. The three hold hands and tell each other that they are deeply in love with each other and will love each other very well in the future.
In this way, although there will be disputes on weekdays, the whole heart is full of love and there will not be too much deviation.
In a word, there will always be more or less parents’ headache disputes when there are two treasures in the family, but there is love in the heart, and fair treatment is the right way to deal with the education problems of the two treasures.