Some mothers cried that no one helped bring the baby, while others complained that the old man’s bringing the baby was simply a mess.
It is true that it is really impossible to follow the routine of [Han Xin Ordering Soldiers] to bring baby to China-it is not necessarily labor-saving to have more people.
However, if the old people can be well [trained], they can also become good teammates with the baby.
The article shared today is a contribution from a post-90s mother. [Management] A mother-in-law with outdated parenting concepts has her own set of [unique experiences].
It is said that mother-in-law and daughter-in-law are natural enemies. Perhaps this is more appropriate for the two women to fight for the father of the child. In taking care of the children, if the strategy is proper, the mother-in-law and daughter-in-law can still become a comrade-in-arms in the trench.
I am a post-90s treasure mother. The baby starts to work 4 months later. Basically, the important task of taking the baby during the day is entrusted to my mother-in-law. Some colleagues asked me if I am at ease. I said: “Of course, I am at ease. His grandmother has more baby than I do.”
This is easy to say, but in fact it is also based on my more than a year of [deliberate] planning. Fortunately, I have achieved good results.
The husband is [Ma Bao Nan] and cannot let her become [Nai Bao Sun]
Due to practical factors, I had to live with my in-laws. My mother-in-law is a late child, so she is very precious to her son. She opens her mouth to food and obeys everything. She also helps her son to arrange everything from childhood to adulthood in her studies and work.
This directly led my husband to grow up to be a [mother treasure man]. He had to give his mother a cup of water to drink water, preferring to die of thirst rather than do it himself.
However, I have been living in the school since junior high school, and my self-care is relatively strong. Therefore, I don’t like my mother-in-law’s pampering of my son, and I am even more worried that the baby will bring it to her mother-in-law, just like his father.
Holding the belief that Eva cannot become a “milk treasure grandson”, I began to plan [the ideological front of unifying scientific parenting] early on.
Professional study, let mother-in-law refuses to accept
As a post-90s generation who still feels like a child, I am basically in a state of chaos and ignorance in giving birth and raising children. After pregnancy, in order to make sufficient preparations for the arrival of small life, I specially went to learn the course of [maternal and infant care] (the kind that can be used as a monthly spouse).
I have a big belly and study all day a week. A total of 12 weeks of courses have declined once and for all. I have also obtained the [Maternal and Infant Care] qualification certificate.
In order to set up the concept of scientific baby raising in advance, every time I come home from class, I will tell my mother-in-law what I have learned. If I am just empty talk, my mother-in-law will probably turn a blind eye to it, but what the teachers in the organization say is still authoritative in her mother-in-law’s view.
For example, she said that she did not have the strength to eat salt. I told her teacher that the baby could not eat salt within one year old, which would increase the burden on the kidney. She said that her son would eat rice soup in the month and was quite proud of it. I told her teacher that babies within four months could not eat starchy food and would suffer from indigestion.
Although I attacked her parenting experience again and again, under the banner of a professional teacher, her mother-in-law refused to accept it. Therefore, before giving birth, I corrected many of her mother-in-law’s past wrong experiences for a long time.
Of course, I have to praise my mother-in-law here. Her open mind and willingness to accept new knowledge are the major prerequisites for my success in [instilling] knowledge.
WeChat Learning, Mother-in-Law Becomes Child-rearing Talent
WeChat is really a good tool.
In order to consolidate my mother-in-law’s learning achievements, I specially organized a family group and posted my collection of parenting articles in the group. After all, my mother-in-law is an elder, and it is not very good to repeat [education] too much in front of her.
Moreover, [education] mother-in-law must also pay attention to strategy, not in the tone of teacher-like education, but in the tone of discussion, [mom, you see what this article said is quite reasonable, and our baby will have to be so nurtured in the future], [mom, do you think this will work]…
I often post articles about [Clove Mother] in the group, and my mother-in-law has now become a loyal fan. She doesn’t sleep until she reads the update of Clove Mother every day.
What’s soaring period, mouth desire period, how to add supplementary food, how to sleep, whether to urinate… mother-in-law read WeChat by herself, which is much more effective than I told her.
Now, when it comes to taking care of children, my mother-in-law is sometimes more relaxed than I am. For example, when the baby climbs out of the range of the climbing mat, I sometimes worry about the dirt on the ground and want to bring him back. My mother-in-law also educated me that I should not interrupt the baby’s own exploration process.
In fact, my mother-in-law has become my supporter.
The preparation before pregnancy made me full of confidence in confinement and taking care of my children in the future. However, as the saying goes, “If you don’t climb high mountains, you don’t know the height of the sky.” Not near the deep stream, I don’t know the thickness of the land], in the moon, I was still severely slapped by reality.
A few days after returning home from the hospital, the baby often cried and often had to eat milk. The mother-in-law and husband felt sorry for the child and thought they were hungry when they heard the baby crying. They thought my milk was not enough and were in a hurry to add milk powder to the child.
I insist on exclusive breast milk as far as possible and refuse to add milk powder. Besides, there are various reasons for newborns to cry, and it is not necessarily hunger. Every time I hear my mother-in-law asking if there is not enough milk, my heart will burst into flames. (Breast-milk mothers all know that they dislike others saying that they do not have enough milk.)
Finally, on the ninth day of the month, I couldn’t hold down the fire any more. When my mother-in-law and husband asked again if there was no milk, I broke out. By getting angry with my husband, I actually said to my mother-in-law, [I am not a stepmother, will I deliberately make the baby hungry? If you add milk powder, I will simply wean.]
Worried about my postpartum depression is more troublesome, mother-in-law and husband no longer mention more. Later, slowly, as the number of times the baby sucked increased, milk gradually increased, enough for the baby to eat, mother-in-law just gave up.
Of course, it is necessary to constantly emphasize with her mother-in-law that [breast milk is the best nutrition for the baby] and strengthen her confidence in breast-feeding (it is not enough for her to have this confidence).
It was winter when she was confinement, and the baby’s face developed eczema. Her mother-in-law felt distressed and had to go to the hospital to prepare ointment.
However, I think the baby is too small. It is not good for the baby to use ointment and hormone. If you pay attention to cleaning and moisturizing, eczema can heal itself.
Finally, no ointment was applied to the baby, and the baby’s eczema slowly recovered.
Later, I went to the hospital for a vaccination. When my mother-in-law saw that other people’s babies also had eczema on their faces, she asked if others had used ointment. Her grandmother said she had used it, but now it has relapsed.
The mother-in-law said with some pride: “I listened to my daughter-in-law. I didn’t apply ointment or lotion. Well, there was no recurrence at all.”
My heart is also dark and cool, which shows that my mother-in-law has already recognized my way of taking babies.
Thanks to my mother-in-law, I need a little skill.
In fact, the mother-in-law and her own starting point are the same when it comes to taking care of the baby. Even the mother-in-law cares more about the baby than she does when it comes to taking care of the baby.
As long as [management skills], the elderly can become the right-hand man to raise children, more than [father loves mountains] (motionless) husband…….
Although it seems to be a matter of course in China that the elderly help to take care of the children, the main responsibility for taking care of the children lies with the parents. My mother-in-law loves the children and is willing to take care of them. I am still very grateful.
After returning to work, I am grateful for my mother-in-law’s hard work in bringing her baby. I occasionally send some small gifts to her mother-in-law. Her mother-in-law feels that she is valued, thanked and very happy. She will fully solicit my opinions on bringing her baby, and I will be at ease at work.
Now the baby is more than seven months old, and my mother-in-law has basically reached an agreement with me on the care of the baby’s daily life, but I also know that there is still a long way to go in the transformation of educational concepts.
Although in-laws are supplemented by children’s education, living together will still have a lot of influence after all. I have already started to [reform] my mother-in-law’s educational philosophy and hope it will have good results.