It is said that [if your husband is good or not, you will know if you have a child].
Because the once vigorous love may become precarious in the first year after giving birth to the baby. However, there are also some happy mothers who will be spoiled to heaven after giving birth and become little princesses in their hands.
We received such a [show of love] contribution, and after reading it, we were stuffed with a mouthful of dog food.
The author of the article said:
[I almost forgot myself, and he always remembered.]
As a novice mother, the baby has just turned three months old and walked out of the newborn stage. Only then did I barely find out a little baby’s habits from my hurry-scurry and dare not relax at all.
Looking back on the past few months, I have been excessively anxious and slightly depressed, and finally know to stop and thank the most important light in my life-my lover.
In his eyes, always recognizing me is the most important thing. And this is also the place where I am most grateful to him. We are simply the best spokesmen for [the relationship between husband and wife is higher than the relationship between parents and children].
Understand my painstaking efforts in scientific feeding
Because the delivery was not smooth, I went to an emergency laparotomy under the condition of amniotic fluid pollution after more than ten hours of hard birth.
After laparotomy, the anesthetic has not dispersed, and I am so sleepy that I still insist on letting the baby suck early and hope to open the milk as soon as possible. I am lucky. The nurse came to say that I have milk, so I hung it all day long, but the child still cried all the time.
My grandparents felt sorry for my granddaughter and kept saying that the child did not have enough to eat, so they had to feed milk powder and cook all kinds of greasy soup to force me to drink. I have always been a scientific parenting school, studying all kinds of maternity science during pregnancy, and I also got a senior parenting teacher. Afraid that the old man in the month would make up too much and even write and match the recipes himself. However, no matter how scientific it is, it can’t hold the child crying. It can’t add milk powder and drink greasy soup.
One day, the nipples were chapped and all kinds of bleeding occurred. My husband was too distressed to watch.
One day at noon, I had just finished feeding the milk wearily. My father-in-law brought another bowl of greasy milk soup. I didn’t want to drink it. My father-in-law said angrily, “Rural women have too much milk to drink, that is, people are willing to eat soup, but you and what don’t want to eat it.”
I was really sad and couldn’t help crying. My husband immediately hugged me heartily and said sadly with almost crying:
[Phil has suffered so many crimes in giving birth to children. In order to make Yangyang drink milk, how many times a day she squeezes and feeds desperately, she is the hardest and most should be cared about! Don’t push her all day long]
Then he gave me Qiong Yao-style hug, leaving my parents-in-law with embarrassed eyes.
My pain and hard work were fully felt and cared for by my husband, which enabled me to slowly adjust myself in the weakest days after delivery and not to be too depressed.
After my husband got angry that time, my father-in-law made the monthly meal strictly according to my recipe, and my mother-in-law would not pay attention to whether my milk rose or not all day long. After my mood relaxed, I quickly realized exclusive breastfeeding.
In the month, he took good care of it.
The child was born at the end of May, and when he was confinement, he really didn’t want to be wrapped in three layers inside and three layers outside, but he couldn’t take a bath after surgery, and he felt very hot every day.
During paternity leave, my husband scrubbed my body every day. As long as I am hot and sweaty, I will wipe my body.
He understood my anxiety as a new mother, so he used this time to talk to me about his work and other chores to help me relax.
During the confinement, I was never wrapped in a bear. I wore a skirt throughout the confinement.
On weekends, my husband will take me around the neighborhood. Whoever said I was going to have lunar disease, my husband and I will look at each other hand in hand and smile without saying a word.
He always wants me to have a good sleep.
My baby began to show a tendency to sleep from birth. Other people’s babies ate and slept in their confinement, but this baby in my family played all day without sleeping. In addition, the baby’s bowel flatulence made it difficult to coax her to sleep.
This is really good. I didn’t have to sleep when she didn’t sleep. One by one, day and night, my baby and I lay in bed with big eyes.
As soon as I heard her whisper, I had a headache. She couldn’t sleep well. I became more and more anxious because of lack of sleep. Even if I fell asleep, I often heard hallucinations and thought the baby was crying again.
Sometimes because I am too tired, I am a little distracted when I take the baby.
My husband saw that I was so miserable that he could not help me at all at work during the day. He could only help me change diapers at night and coax me.
Then, the husband discussed with her mother-in-law that the baby would be taken care of by her mother-in-law during the day. I was only responsible for nursing the baby. At other times, the baby was lying in the room regardless of crying and making noise.
At first I couldn’t accept it. As soon as Eva cried, I wanted to rush out and hold it. My mother-in-law couldn’t accept it either. Then my husband and mother-in-law said:
[Only when Phil has a good rest can Yangyang have milk to drink], her mother-in-law had to accept it.
My husband turned back and whispered to me, “Don’t worry about so many babies, you are the most important thing. She will always grow up if she sleeps less or cries. I will rest assured if you take good care of yourself and don’t be too tired or anxious.”
Later, my mother-in-law became more and more comfortable, and I gradually adapted to it. I also improved my sleep, improved my vigor and vitality, improved my mood, and gradually improved my postpartum depressive symptoms.
In front of my parents-in-law, she always protects me.
As mentioned earlier, I had some different opinions with my father-in-law on the issue of monthly meals. Later, I still had different opinions with my father-in-law on the issue of child care, but my husband always supported my view.
I also often communicate with my elders, who are relatively knowledgeable and gradually no longer stubborn and begin to slowly accept the scientific parenting methods of young people.
At the same time, my husband has always put my opinions and needs first to consider, Even if my in-laws occasionally talk about how the baby does not grow well and why she does not sleep, my husband will only insist that the baby is already very good and I have brought it very well, and often show my love for me in front of my in-laws, always buying fruits I like to eat and buying small gifts for me three days and two ends.
In the long run, my in-laws know my husband’s concern and attention to me, and they will show more respect and restraint to me.
The daily life of myriad favourites
After giving birth to Yangyang, as long as I am awake, I have been studying her excrement, urine and sleep problems endlessly. I have little time to pay attention to myself, let alone my husband.
I often feel upset because my husband doesn’t eat, sleep or make people noisy. When I meet her husband who works overtime, I am tired and have no clue, and my mood often collapses.
Occasionally, my husband goes home early, and I always get angry.
My husband understands that I need to vent my emotions. Even if I am full of grievances, I will come to see me, kiss me, help me and give me a lot of encouragement and praise when I am frustrated in the process of child-rearing.
As soon as I have time, my husband massages my shoulders and neck.
At night, when I feed the child and coax the baby to sleep, he will accompany me while working, and then whisper a few words when the child is asleep.
Eva’s eczema and flatulence are serious, and her weight is always light. I often blame myself, but my husband always praises me for bringing my baby well. When he helps coax Yangyang, he always kowtows to me. He coaxes Eva and coaxes me while singing a self-written ditty. The lyrics are usually repeated over and over again, such as “Mother is the most beautiful and Mother is the cutest”.
Listening to him sing nondescript songs, the mood gradually improved.
Happy Wife Happy Life
When I have children, my husband can still put me in the first place at all times, so that I can gradually raise my head from the spiritual ruins of excrement and urine and reorganize myself.
I am not a great wife and mother, but I am glad to have a great husband. When I am too busy to forget myself, he still remembers to love me twice.
It is also because of my husband’s love that I realize that I am my mother, I am my wife, and I am unique.