Many parents will be worried because their children love to rob their mobile phones: do you want your children to come into contact with them now that electronic products are so popular? One of the most troublesome behaviors for parents is that children always rob mobile phones to play with. The more they don’t give them, the more they want them. It doesn’t work to divert their attention. Some parents joke that [I don’t know who I learned from, such a big addiction].
Today, Dr. Clove invited teacher Chang Run, an education expert, who has a unique view on this phenomenon.
Do you know why children rob cell phones?
[Mom attaches great importance to this thing, and I also want to try it.]
What parents often do, Children will naturally be interested. For example, some children in our kindergarten can put together 100 pieces of jigsaw puzzles when they are over 3 years old. Or when I first came to kindergarten, I could shoot basketball very well, because some people in my family especially like to play jigsaw puzzles and basketball. Many parents look at their cell phones every day in front of their children in a few minutes. Children will naturally think this is a very interesting thing and want to try it.
Moreover, for walking children, they are no longer satisfied with toys specially designed for children to play with. Instead, they begin to explore things that have practical effects on daily life, such as mobile phones, remote controls and other things with buttons. Children are curious about the causal connection that these buttons can produce and want to find out.
[My mother knew how to play with my mobile phone without accompanying me, and I protested.]
When younger children do not understand what mobile phones can do, they do not rob mobile phones because they want to play. If we look at children, we will find that they rob mobile phones in their hands, but their eyes are looking at adults’ eyes.
Sometimes when parents come to the garden to pick up their children, Will play with the children for a while. I observed that when parents came, Although the child seems to be seriously building blocks and drawing pictures, But what I was thinking about was how to show myself in front of my mother. When they completed a challenge, Or when they have some discoveries or creations, they will look up at their parents eagerly, thinking that they have been looking at themselves. When they find that their parents have been looking at their mobile phones, they are not interested in doing what, and the reply is perfunctory, they will rob their mobile phones, which means [stop playing with mobile phones and play with me for a while].
[I am so bored that I really don’t know what to do.]
Many children have problem behaviors, It’s boredom. The kids haven’t entered the park yet, Some mothers told me: Our children’s teachers may need to pay more attention to it. They are especially naughty. They usually climb windows at home or hide adults’ cell phones to play… However, such children will not behave like this again after entering the park, because the environment in the class is far richer and more orderly than that in the home, and children are easier to find what they like to do and put into it constructively.
Not refusing is an expression of respect for children.
Therefore, in the face of the child’s request for [robbing mobile phones], don’t refuse immediately. It is suggested to analyze the child’s needs first and then give targeted guidance.
1. If children are interested in mobile phones, introduce mobile phones as tools to children.
At present, it is academically advocated to introduce electronic equipment as a tool rather than an entertainment product to children, so that children can know what kind of creation can be made with these tools and use them with adults.
When children rob cell phones, You can introduce him to the functions of your mobile phone: A mobile phone is a communication tool, It can help us talk to others, Share some things that have happened, or make an appointment to meet.] It can also let the child choose a person he likes to talk to. In the process, he can not only know the phone number by dialing, but also develop the child’s social skills. For example, he can show the child how to consider the feelings of the other party. After talking, he can first ask the other party [Is it convenient to talk now? ]
The recording function of taking photos and drawing on the mobile phone, the key symbols on the mobile phone, and the components of the mobile phone can all combine education with fun when children are interested, so that children can understand the characteristics of the mobile phone as a tool and can use the mobile phone to create how.
Finally, while respecting children’s interests, it is necessary to set a time with children. The daily screen time for children aged 3-6 is recommended to be within 30 minutes.
Step 2 Pay Attention to Children
When the child’s eyes tell you that he needs company, put down his cell phone as much as possible and listen to what the child wants to tell you. If you are really busy, you can agree with his feelings before refusing the child: [I also want to read a story to you, but my mother has to deal with one thing now and will come to you after dealing with it. You should first think about which book to read.]
3. Prepare alternative toys.
Under the age of 3 is the time for children to feel the world through five senses. Neither brain development nor visual nerve development supports any screen time. If children like mobile phones, remote control and other electronic products, What he likes is to explore the causal connection between things. Buying some toys with mechanical organs or electronic remote control, so that children can use their hands and brains to participate, can not only satisfy children’s curiosity, but also stimulate their creativity and problem-solving ability.
4. Don’t let mobile phones become cartoon players.
Sometimes when you are busy, Parents will show their children cartoons with their mobile phones. The characters, plots and language in cartoons are very novel and exciting for children. Children will especially like it. However, preschool children’s self-control has not developed well. Once children get used to this kind of high-intensity stimulation, they are easily addicted to it. Moreover, when watching cartoons, children are in a state of passive reception rather than active thinking, and their imagination and attention will be affected.
In short, when parents accompany their children aged 0 to 6, they should try not to look at their cell phones and have more high-quality parent-child interaction with their children. In the room, they should support their children to play games that give full play to their imagination and creativity, and in the room, they should be more close to nature. The behavior of robbing cell phones will slowly fade away.