Editor’s note: Dermatologist Chen Yulan successfully gave birth to a little daughter and has had both children in her family since then. To her pride, the eldest son (named “Little Carp”) took the initiative to play the role of “Brother” and assumed the responsibility of caring for her sister to the best of her ability.
This is just the beginning of the story about the two treasures. Let’s take a look at how Dr. Chen made the little carp [become] a brother.
[Mom and Dad are going to have another baby,] I pretended to be as if nothing had happened and said to the young carp, “What do you think? ]
The carp boy was a little confused, which seemed to be a little beyond the understanding of the 4-year-old child: [Should I call this little baby what? ]
[It may be a younger brother or a younger sister. I don’t know yet. TA is too small and can’t see it now through its belly.]
[Can’t you have a younger brother and a younger sister? ]
[No, we can only have one, otherwise we will be fined a lot of money, and we will not be able to buy hot wheels tracks. I said, do you want to be a younger brother or sister? ]
[I don’t know.]
[When my younger brother grows up, he will play football with you. My younger sister may not like playing football. She may not like your toys, including hot wheels. She will probably prefer dolls and picture books.]
[That’s better for my sister! ]
Well, still a little stingy. I thought like this, touching the back of the head of the carp boy: “Anyway, you are going to be a brother, this is a great thing, then you will know.”
I’m going to have a sister!
When I went to the kindergarten to pick up the carp boy, his teacher smiled and asked me, “Yes? ]
I said, [Huh? How do you know? ]
[Carp Boy showed off to the whole class today that he was going to have a sister! ]
Er…
When taking a bath at night, I asked the carp boy, “why do you say it must be your sister?” It could also be a younger brother.]
The young carp said, “Ah? Didn’t father give birth to younger brother and mother give birth to younger sister? ]
Er…
Small picture books are of great help.
So I bought a picture book called “Our Bodies” for the carp cub, some of which explained that the baby was born in how:
There are also some picture books explaining the situation in how after having younger brothers and sisters.
I bought these two books, one of which is called “Little Monkey Becomes Big Brother”. This story can help carp deal with the loss that they may have to face in the future:
There is also a book called “Brother and Sister User’s Manual”, which tells everything I can think of and can’t think of. Carp can help me take care of Xiao Bao’s specific affairs:
Anyway, TA is called Yuan Yuan
[When the baby was first born, it had no teeth and could only eat milk. Not as fierce as you are, you can bite meat or eat apples.]
I can also eat carrots! ]
[Hmm. Moreover, the baby can’t walk or talk. When hungry, he has to cry. Only when he cries can he know that he wants to feed TA or wipe TA’s ass.]
[I will eat by myself! I will go to the toilet myself! ]
[Hmm. Also, TA may have to eat milk every 3 hours and cry to eat it in the middle of the night, so you’d better sleep in a small room with grandma so that you won’t be disturbed by TA.]
[Ah, it’s so troublesome.] The carp boy is still a little unacceptable for not sleeping with his mother.
[The newborn baby is more troublesome.] I said, [However, you were raised bit by bit by your parents from such a small baby that you can’t do in what. Mom and Dad also used to feed you milk many times a day, teach you to walk and talk, and then gradually became today’s little brother.]
[So we also have to teach our sister.]
[Yes… uh, wait, why do you think it’s my sister? ]
[It must be my sister.] The carp boy said expectantly.
[Well, let’s give the baby a nickname, Yuan Yuan. We don’t know whether TA is a younger brother or sister now. In short, TA is Yuan Yuan.]
[OK, Yuan Yuan.] With a specific name, all imagination seems to have a outline and feelings seem to have an origin.
The young carp gently touched my belly.
Yuan Yuan kicked his brother’s little hand.
Grandma, don’t say that…
Grandma came with a lot of nutrition. The carp boy pestered her all day long. When she was eating, she was still making a noise: “Grandma, feed me, or I won’t eat.”
Grandma was tired and said angrily: “Don’t eat and pull down, then Yuanyuan will be born and eat faster than you, and we will all love Yuanyuan and not you.”
My heart was anxious: doing so may make the carp boy feel that his position is threatened. Not only may he put the [account] on Yuan Yuan’s head, but he will also feel wronged. This is absolutely impossible.
[There is no such thing,] I immediately interrupted Grandma, [either of you eats fast, we will love you, but you eat slowly and eat less, you are hungry at night, you are not tall in the future, we can’t help you eat and help you grow.]
The young carp was angry and did not speak.
[But didn’t you say you were going to take care of Yuan Yuan for me? I said, pretending to be embarrassed, “If you can’t even eat by yourself and I have to take care of you, how can you help me take care of Yuan Yuan?” We need your help.]
The carp boy wanted to think for a moment, and he gulped up the rice.
[I can eat by myself, then, I can also feed Yuan Yuan to eat bottles and help TA lose diapers! There are many things I can do to help you! ]
Why hasn’t Yuan Yuan come out yet?
[Mom, your stomach has become so big.]
[That’s because it’s full of roundness, and when it comes out, it will be flat.]
[Yuan Yuan hasn’t come out yet.]
[It’s not so easy to have a baby.]
… …
In this way, nine months passed, and finally I was sent to the maternity ward and gave birth to a pink little girl.
Do you still have a brother in your stomach?
I haven’t seen him for a few days. I thought the carp boy would miss me very much. On the day he came home from hospital, when school was over, I rushed to open the door for him.
After more than half a year’s psychological construction, I saw my sister’s carp with my own eyes for the first time. When I entered the door, I saw no response and asked directly, “Where is Yuan Yuan?” Did you feed her? She has no teeth and can only eat milk! Did you buy her diapers? I used to use diapers! Look at her moving! She’s my sister! Do you know? This is my sister. Tonight I sleep with my grandmother, Yuan Yuan sleeps with my parents…]
The whole family is happy.
Almost an hour later, he noticed me and asked, “Why is your stomach still very big?” Is there a brother in it? ]
[It’s not so easy to have a baby! I said angrily from embarrassment.
[It doesn’t matter, I can help you, I am a brother.] Carp said confidently.