Is it scientific to say that one looks old at the age of three?
As an adult, you already have a lot of experience and life experience. Then please evaluate yourself at present:
-Do you have a chance to become a top football player?
-Can you be an astronaut with a rocket?
-Can you become a popular movie star?
I think the vast majority of adults will think rationally that their estimates are terrible. But when these good expectations are put on any child, people will think that there is a greater possibility-because he is still young, his future is not clear, and he still has a chance to become any kind of person.
There is an old saying in our country that when you are three years old, you look older and when you are seven years old.
External behavior is the manifestation of internal development. Every child also has one or more internal advantages waiting for himself and the outside world to discover. This advantage must always be displayed. No matter how immature and simple this expression is, once you can hold this small thread, you may be able to see the treasure of children’s minds.
It is not true to look old by grasping the age of three. It is possible to look old at science at the age of three.
Which performances can indicate children’s special skills or talents?
The current concept of discipline does not regard children’s talents as the placement point on a straight line-one child is smarter than another child, but thinks that different children are smarter in different places, which means that natural talents must be useful.
Harvard University psychologist Howard Gardner put forward the most advanced [multiple intelligences theory] in the field of psychology to study human intelligence. In Howard’s system, human intelligence is divided into eight types:
Language intelligence, logic and mathematics intelligence, music intelligence, spatial intelligence, body kinesthetic intelligence, interpersonal intelligence, introspective intelligence and naturalistic intelligence.
You can imagine this theory as the multi-attribute system of characters when you play games or watch American TV shows. Some characters have high [strength] but low [agility]; Some characters are good at swimming, but their defense is very weak. Other characters have very rare abilities-such as [Dragon Mother] Daenerys in Game of Thrones, who is the only one in the play who can control dragons.
Different children have different development rates, different development efficiency, different development levels and different development ceilings in these eight different intelligences.
Take my worst music for example-for normal children, they have already started to learn to speak and sing in their infancy.
A recent study believes that children of two months old can already imitate the general outline of pitch, sound and melody in children’s songs sung by their mothers, and this ability is stronger than the language ability of the same period.
By the time the child was one and a half years old, there was an important turning point in musical intelligence. The children began to emit a series of sound combinations with different pitches and also began to try to master different small-span intervals.
When the child is two or three years old, the difference in talent appears. In the young convergence stage, the average child can already sing the songs that he often comes into contact with under the condition of training. However, the gifted child can already read the music under the condition of training.
However, children who are good at music are not necessarily good at running, speaking and painting. So you don’t have to worry, let’s just take music intelligence as an example.
Is talent the decisive influence?
In addition to [three years old looks big, seven years old looks big], there is an old saying-[hours old, big is not good.]
Combined with talent, there are three important environmental variables.
Step 1 Practice
Japanese violin educator Shinichi Suzuki initiated the Suzuki teaching method of violin. It can also play a very good role in children’s piano learning. However, he still found that gifted children may not really rely much on practice before they were eight or nine years old. Many children played piano well when they were young, but eventually encountered the bottleneck of progress when they were teenagers. Some people persevered and became professional musicians, while others chose to give up.
Step 2: Fun
For children, What is not interesting is not worth investing in. As long as you have seen what happened to Dr. Libanna, you will know that no one wants what he is good at to be a curse on himself. Of course, many exercises are hard, monotonous and repetitive, but the skills and fields represented by these exercises can still be interesting and worth investing in by children.
3. Support
Peter Fred, a psychologist at Columbia University, said: “Parents should give their children unconditional and firm love and not associate it with achievement.” The best way is to expose the child to various resources at an early age, which can set up higher expectations.
However, parents must never regard love as a reward for success and progress and indifference as a punishment for failure. Parents must let their children know that they believe that their baby can achieve achievements that make him feel sincerely satisfied.
Talent is a child’s, but it is not enough for him to grow up on his own. For you as a parent, finding a child’s talent is only the beginning, and how to guide and cultivate it well is the bigger task.