Have you been troubled by such questions recently:
[I want to enroll my child in an interest class, but how about letting him learn from what? ]
I believe that all parents have seen many suggestions like the following in various parenting public numbers or parenting books:
When choosing interest classes, you must consult your children. Interest is the best teacher.
We must calm down and do not place too much emphasis on the [utilitarian purpose] of textual research and grade examination. We should not use snacks, gifts and prizes to tempt children to persist in learning and cultivate their [internal motivation].
It is strongly recommended that parents follow the class and observe at any time. If they find that the teacher has problems in teaching or the child is not used to it, they will voluntarily give up and then choose other interest classes to protect the child’s self-esteem and self-confidence.
It doesn’t matter whether you learn well or not. The most important thing is to persist and cultivate perseverance and concentration. Children will have slack mood and fear of difficulties, but everyone has difficulties at first. Parents must be gentle and firm.
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To be honest, the widely circulated authoritative views have indeed given us a correct direction, but I believe many parents will, like me, find it difficult to implement them.
So, what is the problem?
We found that [fear of making mistakes] is one of the deepest fears in parents’ hearts.
What if all the children in the class can play an instrument, what will my children do?
What if his talent is vocal music, what if I turn it into instrumental music?
What should I do if I don’t learn English and miss the opportunity of international communication?
What should I do if I concentrate on English and delay the development of my mother tongue?
What if I missed the critical period without forcing me?
What should I do if I pull out the seedlings to encourage them and destroy the children’s interests instead?
What should I do?
What should I do?
What should I do?
Now, take a deep breath, relax, let’s say a few words of truth.
The fact is that parents can never control their children’s future.
We have opened one popular science article after another on parenting (some people have opened this article because of the uneven situation …), hoping to read from other people’s theories the road to success that is completely suitable for our children.
How is that possible? Even if you find a completely scripted way, are you willing to let your child become a replica of others?
In fact, the vast majority of parents do not have great ambition, We don’t expect our children to become piano masters in the future. Artists, or Olympic champions. The so-called interest classes are just to make children have a taste of life, a broad vision and a variety of fun. However, once faced with competition, comparison and pressure from entering a higher school, those relaxed and happy mentality will be challenged and they will worry about whether they are the ones who delay their children’s future.
As a result, we will label ourselves as [doing wrong].
However, in fact, you have to admit that you will never be able to fully control your child’s future. Therefore, please tear off the label of “doing wrong” on your body.
Because once we start to worry about whether we have made mistakes, we will seek professional guidance and expert advice to make a happy and natural event complicated and complicated. Not only is it a futile search, but also we will divert our attention from what is really important-when we pay attention to theory, we cannot really pay attention to children.
Many things that you think are [wrong] may be meaningful to children.
You have to believe that no one knows more about children’s interests than we do.
This sentence is not casual. Nor does it put extra pressure on parents, as if they must understand their children’s interests to be good parents-you are already, and no one knows your children better than you. Remember when he or she first learned to speak? No one else can understand the words he or she created, and how relaxed you are to play the translator between children and the world!
There is no need for any talent, no special training, and no need to read what’s theoretical articles. For you, understanding children is so natural.
It only takes patience and time to accompany, feel and understand.
If he throws away his paintbrush, ask what that he was upset at that moment.
If he complains that painting is not fun, talk to him about which link is the most painful.
If he feels that the practice is too boring, try to turn it into a more interesting game.
If he always prefers cartoons, he will observe why cartoons are so attractive to him. He will laugh heartily in what and concentrate on them in what.
Of course, this is not what’s professional guidance, not even guidance.
Because every parent has been doing this all the time.
Can we choose a suitable interest class in this way?
If someone asks.
There is no answer, no answer. As mentioned earlier, most of our parents do not enroll their children in interest classes in order to make them become piano masters, artists or Olympic champions in the future. The reason why we enroll our children in interest classes is just to make his life more colorful, interesting and his vision wider.
Therefore, it is good to enroll in any interest class all over the world and realize all kinds of pleasant possibilities it brings. Then to realize whether the child likes it or not, whether he is happy or not, instead of worrying about whether he is necessarily correct.
It doesn’t matter, don’t worry about the child’s talent being missed. As long as we care enough and wait patiently, he must have a way for us to discover his talent before it is discovered by the whole world.