More and more young couples are busy working outside and have no time to take care of their children. This important task falls on our elders who are out of work at home. Now that we have released our second child, is it another apple of our eye and we are ready to be busy again?
Therefore, we can often see our children and grandchildren every day, which is countless times better than children who forget their parents when they are busy raising their children. Regular activities of legs and feet, teaching children to speak and play, not only exercise their bodies, but also exercise their brains.
However, we also see every day on the Internet, on TV and in the circle of friends vigorously crusading against the various faults of the elderly with their children, such as affecting the development of children, affecting the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, and also affecting the health of our elderly people…
You can’t take the blame. There are so many benefits to taking care of children, why can’t you do it? Just be careful not to go into misunderstanding.
What should the elderly pay attention to when taking care of their children?
Don’t dote on
Many of us are teaching our children to be angry.
Of course, it is not to urge the child to be angry, but when the child is angry, the first reaction is often how to comfort and meet his requirements.
Over time, children will develop the idea that what will have it whenever I make trouble.
Eat four meals a day and eat snacks? No problem! Coke for water? No problem!
What if there is a problem? Just cry, grandparents will send it.
It’s terrible, isn’t it?
So, what should we do?
Don’t dote on, don’t dote on, don’t dote on.
Give children a healthy concept of right and wrong, instead of following one’s inclinations.
Tell the child what kind of requirements are reasonable, what is unreasonable, anger cannot solve any problem.
You should also think more about yourself.
Sometimes, because of the love in my heart and maternal instinct, I often do too many things for my child when looking after him. However, this will not only make the child unable to stand on his own feet, but also make him exhausted.
We are no longer young and have no unlimited physical strength and energy. Once our health is discounted, our children will also be affected.
Therefore, when looking after children, one should always understand how one feels:
- Feel tired? Feel any pressure? Feel frustrated? Feeling anxious?
If it is really unbearable, let the children’s parents come back to help you for a period of time. You can go back to your life, contact old friends who have been estranged from taking care of children, relax and have fun.
Don’t restrict children’s activities
As we get older, physical activities are not convenient. When children play, it is often difficult to keep up with their footsteps. If you are not careful, you may get hurt.
Therefore, children’s range of activities is often restricted, making them not love activities and communicate with others. When they should have been chasing and slapstick with their peers, they will sit in the sun with us.
Perhaps we will think the child is really good and want to show off to the parents around us.
But the consequences are unimaginable.
What should I do?
Let the children know the necessary safety knowledge, tell them how to deal with accidents, and then let them play. You just have to watch from a distance.
Teach children to observe what
When we take care of our children, we often assume the role of education and role model at the same time. So, apart from children’s food, clothing, housing and transportation, have we taught them a good habit?
Do children live on time every day?
Will you eat on time? How is the nutrition collocation for eating?
Do you know how to ensure traffic safety?
Do you know that you should go to a regular hospital when you are ill?
Teach them some of the most basic common sense, and strictly require children to abide by, don’t let children’s starting line full of hidden dangers.
When educating children, don’t take it for granted to teach them your knowledge, which may be unscientific or outdated. At this time, it is absolutely right to discuss more with the parents of the children.
Ask your child more about his feelings
The education methods of our generation are often indoctrinated. As long as we tell them, we often ignore what children think.
Do they feel happy to leave their parents and live with us? Do you cry to go home every day?
Have you adapted to the environment here and have your own privacy? Can you feel safe?
Can curiosity be satisfied?
Therefore, often sit down and talk, choose a quiet time that allows children to think, so that children can learn to analyze their emotions, why they are happy and why they are not happy.
When a child has a problem, it is not shameful to say [don’t know] to the child.
Remember these, be a good grandfather/grandmother/grandfather/grandmother, each of us can.