Many parents have encountered the problem of their children’s inattention, which has a great impact on normal life and study:
Slow homework, easy carelessness, wrong listening to lectures, easy distraction, or procrastination in talking to classmates and doing things. The results often drop.
Once these bad habits are fixed, it is very difficult to adjust them later.
Therefore, it is very important to pay attention to it as soon as possible. If the child has the above-mentioned behaviors for more than half a year, it is necessary to carry out purposeful exercise to curb this bad behavior and not let it continue to deteriorate.
Don’t want your baby to have these bad habits in the future, learn the following methods quickly.
How to judge whether a child is inattentive?
Psychologists often use [Schulte Attention Training Form] to judge the degree of concentration (see table below).
The Schulte table consists of 25 small cells of 1 cm × 1 cm, in which 1 ~ 25 numbers are arranged arbitrarily (each time can be changed and combined arbitrarily). The examinee finds out the positions of these numbers from 1 ~ 25 while pointing at the numbers, and reads out these numbers at the same time. The examinee records the completion time of each time beside the examinee.
Generally speaking, the completion within 23-27 seconds is the normal level, and more than 36 seconds indicates that the child’s attention may need further cultivation.
Don’t kill your child’s concentration with your own hands.
This is a pit that many parents have stepped on.
Everyone may mistakenly think that attention is innate. If attention is not good at that time, parents may think [it is good to wait for the child to get older], but in fact, attention needs more practice the day after tomorrow to get better and better.
Many parents saw their children playing with toys quietly and were very clever. They thought to themselves, I will also participate in encouraging them to accompany him more, and then insert them to play with their children, or send a biscuit and some fruit to their children later.
This is a big mistake, because every time you do this, you may deprive your child of the opportunity to exercise himself and learn to concentrate. Later, when the child gets older, he may become slower and slower? The more you watch your child do his homework, the less you can concentrate?
Therefore, it is suggested that parents should quietly watch their children play in the distance and help their children moderately when they need help.
Parent-child activities can be arranged separately and cannot rashly interfere with the children’s own play process.
Five Ways to Help Children Concentrate
1. Schulte Form
It is to use the [Schulte Attention Training Form] mentioned above to train children’s attention.
Experiments show that if you stick to Shulte form practice for 5 minutes every day, you can effectively improve your children’s attention, and your homework speed and examination results may also be improved.
If you feel that the 25-grid table is difficult at first, you can reduce it to 9-grid table. On the contrary, when you are skilled in practice, you can also increase the number of forms to 36, 49 and 64.
2. Pick up Beans Game
School-age children, especially young children, are prone to distraction due to slow homework, which is probably caused by the imperfect development of children’s brain and finger muscles. Therefore, more exercise of children’s hand-eye coordination ability will be beneficial to the cultivation of children’s concentration.
The bean picking game can let the mother be the referee, and the father and the child play together:
There are two plates in front of each person. One plate contains many soybeans (or mung beans, the smaller the beans, the more difficult it is). The other plate is empty.
The referee may ask the contestant to use the index finger and thumb of his right hand (you can choose two fingers at will, such as the middle finger and ring finger, or even the two little thumbs of both hands) to pick up only one bean at a time and put it into his empty plate for one minute or more. Who will pick up more beans in the competition within the specified time?
This form of competition can not only increase the interaction between parents and children in the family, but also train the children’s hand-eye coordination ability in the game. Playing for 10 minutes every day can well create a warm atmosphere in the family and effectively improve the children’s attention problems.
3. Exercise Changes Brain
Specific sports help to cultivate children’s coordination ability, make children more flexible when doing homework and things, and help children to concentrate.
(1) Rope skipping
The skipping rope here is not only skipping rope with both legs, but also can practice skipping rope with both legs rotating, jumping while running, jumping back and forth, jumping with both hands crossed, jumping backwards, etc. These can help children’s cerebellum development and lay a good foundation for the ability of hand-eye coordination.
With both hands and feet, the effect of exercising cerebellum naturally need not be said much. Moreover, swimming is also a very good exercise to improve physical quality and lose weight.
The forehand of tennis is the right hand, while the backhand is the left hand, which requires tennis practitioners to use both left and right hands flexibly. In addition, the high-speed ball requires children to concentrate on judging its direction, which is a very helpful sport.
(4) Doing housework and playing musical instruments
Doing housework and playing musical instruments are both left and right hands, which can improve children’s attention and cultivate children’s independent ability and aesthetic ability.
4. Communicate more with children and increase subjective initiative.
Communicating with children in the right way can make children pay more attention to their attention, change their behavior patterns in time, and make their attention focus more on important things.
The core skills of communication with children are as follows:
(1) Believing in Children
Children often want to do well, but most of the time the motivation is right, but the behavior is not good.
At this time, parents should not rush to deny or criticize their children, but should communicate patiently with their children, understand why their children are thinking about what, and then make the next decision.
(2) Set the task beforehand
Let children know the problems that need to be solved every time they do homework. Parents should not expect to solve many problems at one time.
For example, to solve the problem of slow time when doing homework today, on the basis of ensuring correctness, the neatness of the rolling surface can be slightly relaxed.
(3) Praise should be specific
For example, I did my homework 5 minutes faster than usual today. Praise the child in general terms [you are great! You’re awesome! ] is not to let children experience their attention and recognition.
On the contrary, it is likely to make children feel that their parents are perfunctory and do not pay attention to themselves at all!
Therefore, it is better to praise directly [you did your homework 5 minutes faster than usual today! ] Better.
(4) Encourage children to recall successful experiences
Tell Mom/Dad how you did it? ]
Children sometimes use the right methods to improve their efficiency. After success, they probably forget how to do it at that time.
If parents do not use scientific methods to help their children recall successful experiences in time, it is likely that the next time their children are [beaten back to their original shape], parents will think that their children’s behaviors are repeated and will be disappointed.
(5) Change [but] in words into [although]
Give more positive and objective feedback.
For example: [You did a good job today, but you were still a little careless in some places] This sentence is not praise, but criticism! Because children are likely to pay more attention to the second half of the sentence.
Although some places are still a little careless, they have done very well on the whole! ] This not only enables children to find that they still have room for improvement, but also enables them to realize the recognition of their parents.
(6) Encourage children to pay attention to improvement methods
Children are often very upset when they cannot concentrate, so they are easy to fall into disappointment and cannot extricate themselves.
Parents can no longer give more criticism and preaching at this time, but should encourage their children to think about how to improve in the future and shift their attention to future improvement.
5. Set a [reserved time] for children.
In the face of children with attention deficit for a long time, parents tend to feel impatient and are often in a state of constant reminding, preaching and even beating and scolding their children.
However, when children make progress, parents will feel that this progress is taken for granted and will be stingy with their praise. Children will be upset if they do not feel the attention and recognition they need.
In this vicious circle, the family will be in a state of long-term disharmony.
Recommend the following simple method, which can improve this situation very well:
It is agreed with the child that 20-30 minutes will be reserved every day or every other period of time. The parents will support other brothers and sisters and only play games with the child alone.
In order to deal with older children (over 12 ~ 13 years old), it is necessary to change the game items frequently.
During this period of time, parents can only pay attention to their children’s advantages and greatly appreciate them. They cannot preach or quarrel. Simply enjoy the time with their children.
Praise and playing games together can give children love and security, and calm their emotions.
Don’t judge from appearances
However, it should be noted that it does not mean that children are not paying attention as long as they are slow in their homework and distracted.
Academic pressure, campus violence, depression and other psychological diseases, entering the physiological development period, etc. may all cause the above behaviors.
At this time, although the children’s intuitive performance is still inattention, there are probably deeper reasons that deserve our attention.
Simply exercising children’s attention can only treat symptoms but not root causes.
Therefore, when a child’s condition or behavior suddenly changes, it is necessary to use scientific tools or consult professionals to make judgments, instead of simply thinking that the child is just disobedient or inattentive, let alone using simple and crude means to educate the child, so as not to make the problem more serious.