I wanted to take my children out to play during the holiday, but I didn’t expect the [angel baby] at home to become a [little devil] as soon as I went out, crying and making noises, which attracted the crowd to look askance. It was just-
Capital embarrassment.
In fact, it is not difficult to treat this [crying disease when going out], mainly to find out the [cause] and suit the remedy to the case. Today, Dr. Clove invited Mr. Zuo Fei to tell everyone about the secret.
Etiology 1: Lack of Attention
Many parents have such experiences. When a person takes the baby out, the baby is quite good, but it is different for the couple to take the baby out together. The baby wants to see this toy and buy that snack.
If parents [stick to the principle] and reason with the baby, the baby will probably stop making noise for a while, but the next time the whole family goes out together, it will be [yesterday again].
In fact, this is because the baby feels that he has lost his attention and uses noise to [ask for attention].
When an adult takes his baby out of the house, he spends more time communicating with the baby, while the couple takes the baby out of the house. Sometimes the adult talks warmly and ignores the baby.
As a result, the baby was unhappy and began to make all kinds of noise.
Doctor Clove’s Advice
To solve this problem, it is important to pay attention to the baby. Parents can follow three steps:
1. Stop to talk with the baby seriously;
2. Pick up the baby so that the baby can have a broader vision;
3. Divert the baby’s attention.
Take an example
For the baby clamoring for toys, you can answer as follows:
Does the baby want to see toys? Remember, we agreed not to buy toys today.
However, Mom can take you in and have a look. You can choose which toy you want and let’s buy it again next time.
Come on, let’s go into the toy store!
Etiology 2: Insecurity
Some babies may look particularly weak when they go out to play with other children.
When other children are excited, they may beat others, compete for toys and shout excitedly. At this moment, the baby will cry and come back to find his mother, unwilling to play again.
In fact, this phenomenon is normal.
Babies may go out less or lack communication skills and experience with others. They will be especially afraid when they meet strangers or other children who make unexpected moves.
Doctor Clove’s Advice
At this time, the important thing is moderate companionship.
Here, moderate companionship means: to accompany, encourage and support the baby, not to force the baby to return to an environment that frightens him, nor to over-protect and prevent the baby from reintegrating into his peers.
Take an example
For the fear of playing with children, you can deal with it as follows:
Is the baby very wronged and scared just now? Do you still want to play with the children?
It doesn’t matter, my mother will always accompany you here, but my mother has to do her own thing (at this time, you can install a mobile phone to make phone calls).
When you are ready in what, will you go and play with them in what?
When the baby’s mood calms down and he feels bored with his mother, the children across the street are having fun again, and he will probably summon up courage again and go back to play with the children.
General Methods to Deal with Baby Crying
There are also many reasons that will lead to the [attack] of the baby’s [crying disease when going out]. For example, desire cannot be satisfied, injury, sleep, dirty air, etc.
Here, Dr. Clove gives everyone a practical communication method, which is effective most of the time.
Let’s take the baby clamoring for toys as an example.
Accept children: Mom knows that you are very sad and want XXX (to understand the wishes of children), right?
Show the truth: But now we have agreed not to buy toys today. Shall we come again next time?
Diversion: Look, you haven’t been there yet. It seems that there are interesting things there. Let’s go and have a look! Go!
After the baby calms down, reason again. If there is an agreed punishment before, it should be carried out gently but firmly. It is not allowed to not carry out the rules set before just because the baby is not noisy.
In fact, it is not difficult to treat the baby’s [crying disease when going out]. As long as Bao’s parents are good at finding the baby’s real needs, calmly accept the baby’s emotions, and then deal with them with positive methods, I believe most babies will also be a [little angel] when going out.