Many mothers think it is very powerful to bring one or two babies alone, but when it comes to the practical experience of child-rearing, Dr. Clove’s good friend Jiang Jiaxinyue & Zhongyang claimed to be the second, while Dr. Clove did not dare to call it the first. Why?
They have five babies, and it is easier to bring them than one of ours!
If we tell you again that they don’t have the help of the elderly, don’t hire nannies, the two of them have five children, and still have time to start a business, is it inconceivable?
Come and have a look. What did them.
The Daily Life of Wuwa Family
The Jiang couple claimed that they were [simple mothers], but their model of taking babies was not simple at all.
The trick of getting rid of the five babies is hidden in the following schedule:
It’s a bit of a glare, isn’t it? In this picture, the core is actually the arrangement of [sleeping] and [eating], which is also the [long-standing] problem that many parents are concerned about.
The five children are of different ages. How can they go to bed on time every day?
Five children eat together, still don’t have to quarrel earth-shaking?
Don’t worry, Dr. Clove asked Jiang’s husband and wife to speak one by one.
Sleep habit is the core habit of the Five Treasures family.
Dr. Clove once asked Jiang’s husband and wife:
If you want more children, the most important thing is what.
Jiang’s husband and wife answered firmly:Cultivate children’s sleep habits.
It makes sense to think about it: if all five children need to sleep and the sleep time is not fixed, how can the nerves of the two of them stand this [torture of love]?
Jiang’s husband and wife told Dr. Clove that they had also gone through a detour. They were almost tortured to collapse by the eldest brother’s night crying and night milk.
However, the second child, who was born soon after, also has the demeanor of the eldest child. He cried very dark in the hospital when he was just born, causing people to suffer from heart disease.
At this time, the couple finally realized that this is not the way to go on, and it requires great efforts to cultivate children’s sleep habits.
When the second child returned home from the hospital, the couple began to cultivate her sleep habits.
To their great surprise, the second child slept for 6 hours that night and didn’t wake up until 3 o’clock in the morning to feed once. Put it on the bed and then sleep until nearly 7 o’clock in the morning.
Under this circumstance, since the eldest brother was born, the Jiang family couple who hardly slept the whole night felt that way:
One month later, the second child’s sleep habit was basically formed. He slept in the next room alone, regularly and safely, and could sleep for 12 hours continuously all night.
Next, they began to gradually improve the eldest brother’s sleep habits, falling asleep by themselves and sharing a room by themselves… This process is certainly very painful.
After a long sleep habit cultivation, the eldest brother is over 5 years old and can finally sleep soundly all night.
With the sharp contrast between the eldest and the second, the couple did the same thing for the next three babies and put the cultivation of their children’s sleep habits first with their babies. The result was-
At 7: 30 every night, when everyone is still playing with her, they have their own time: rest, entertainment, study, meeting friends… the children’s life after falling asleep is rich and colorful, which makes people envy, envy and hate.
To this day, the five children are still the same. They have not given up their due life because of the large number of children. The order and habits in the family are all based on regular work and rest. With this habit as the basis, other training is almost easy to carry out.
Eat independently: 10-month-old babies can eat by themselves,
Every time I take my five children out to eat, it is definitely a scenery line. Apart from the large number of people, the most important thing is that all five children can eat by themselves, including the fifth, who is less than one year old.
Jiang’s husband and wife told Dr. Clove that if, like many families, all five children had to chase for food, then adults would not eat themselves.
The orderly dining order of the Jiang family is inseparable from the determination and patience of the young couple. They have done a good job in each stage of the child’s training. When the child is 10 months old, he can eat independently.
The young couple revealed the timetable for training their children to eat independently:
About 6 months: Let the children sit in the children’s dining chair independently and try to grasp some food (including supplementary mud) with their hands.
About 10 months old: The baby can already eat on his own without feeding. The biggest challenge in this process is dirty, often all over the body, one table, one floor… This situation lasts for about a year.
About one year old: To give children tableware, the more troublesome thing is that they often throw tableware from the dining chair to the ground, and they always have to help pick it up, which may last for 3 months.
After one and a half years old: you can basically eat by yourself without worrying about spilling food.
At the dining table, they have their own rules:
1. Only when the whole family is seated can dinner be served.
2. Don’t be picky about food. You must eat every dish on the table. You don’t like to eat 3 mouthfuls.
3. Don’t waste, the food on your plate must be eaten, not leftovers.
4. Not used to it, not chasing after it. If you refuse to eat because you don’t like it, there is no problem at all. You won’t have any food until the next dinner, and it is also these foods.
5. Sit in the chair when eating. You must sit in the baby chair before you are 2.5 years old. If you leave the chair, you have finished eating.
6. After the meal, say: I am full, everyone eat slowly. Send your own tableware to the kitchen.
Sometimes, especially when children don’t want to eat green vegetables, they will cry and cheat. They want to break these rules. The way for the young couple is to give emotional comfort and not give in principle.
Internal Skill Mental Skill: Family Parent-Child Model Gives Us Strength
Today, Dr. Clove introduced the two habits of the Wubao family-sleep habits and eating habits. In addition, there are four main habits: entertainment habits, safety habits, communication habits and self-care habits.
Before the age of three, the Jiang family and their children will establish these six main habits together to make full preparations for them to enter kindergarten.
Maybe Bao’s parents will think, isn’t it too ideal? How can it be so easy?
Indeed, this is not easy at all. It requires both husband and wife to make great efforts together in the early stage.
However, Jiang’s husband and wife were able to bring their own five babies and successfully established these habits with their children, largely thanks to their family parent-child model.
Bao’s parents can first think about whether their family parent-child model is as follows:
Children are the center of the family. Parents should plan their daily life according to their children’s needs and moods. All people and resources revolve around children.
The Jiang family’s parent-child model has its own characteristics:
The husband and wife are the center of the family. The couple decide the family’s lifestyle and future direction. The rules are made by the husband and wife. The children need to cooperate and implement the rules at the same time.
They will not turn around their children, but will find a balance more. Find a balance among parents, children and the elderly, not to achieve one party.
The foreseeable benefits of such role positioning:
Parents will not lose themselves or affect the relationship between husband and wife;
Children are partners, not competing with each other.
The elderly also have their own lives and are healthier physically and mentally.
To better help children integrate into society, we should know that one cannot always be the core in society.
It is precisely because of this family parent-child model that they can hold the five babies and live their colorful life at the same time, which is also the biggest difference between their family and other parents of the same age.
After reading this article, do you want to try it?
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