In today’s society where sexual information is everywhere, talking about sex with adolescent children as parents is actually a kind of protection for children, allowing children to reserve more knowledge and to suffer as little harm as possible. So, are you ready to have a talk about sex with your children? Let’s take a look. We should pay attention to what during this conversation.
Give teenagers enough respect,
Nowadays, teenagers are often labeled as lazy, exotic and irresponsible. Of course, It also includes promiscuity. Adolescence can be said to be the most unpleasant period in life: Without what autonomy, one must go to school every day, and one’s leisure time is stuffed with various arrangements by parents. As a teenager, one may easily come into contact with drugs, alcohol, promiscuous sex, However, no one has given any guiding advice. Therefore, parents should give their children in their teens respect and tell them what they want to know. This respect and the right to acquire knowledge are what children deserve, not just that children at this stage can only listen to what you want to say.
Teenagers should be treated individually.
We are used to defining teenagers in general terms as children between the ages of 13 and 18. In fact, In this age span, Children’s physical and mental maturity, the degree of knowledge reserve, living environment and social function, It’s not the same. Every child should be treated individually. Be sensitive to your child’s need for sexual knowledge at a specific age. If you can’t do it, you can turn to your friends and see what others do. Of course, you can refer to the following suggestions.
Listen carefully to the questions
Some teenagers can freely raise their sexual questions, But some don’t. Children may not ask parents explicitly about this, Therefore, parents should pay more attention to the questions that their children do not directly ask you. The sexual knowledge that children acquire from schools or small stories may be the source of opening the conversation with their parents. Ask children some questions that they do not directly ask, among which there may be some that they really want to know.
Provide help, but don’t interfere too much.
Don’t try to interfere with your child’s sexual exploration, and leave room for your child to ask questions. Make your child feel that it is reliable to ask you questions and that your help will be present all the time. Even if this present help may disappear one day, the child will thank you for your efforts to provide help.
The ways and means of sex education should be diversified.
If parents want to give their children enough autonomy in learning, It is necessary to provide conditions for children to learn. If parents have a premonition that their children may have sex, But it is not sure whether the child knows how to have safe sex. Take the initiative to ask your child. It is the responsibility of parents to ensure that any sexual attempt is safe. If you realize that your child is afraid of being punished for asking questions, put some books on this issue at home, and your child has the freedom to read these books without your permission.
Make good use of other resources
Books, other family members or friends can also help with sex education. For example, a daughter may not want to talk to her parents, but she will talk to her aunt very well. The most important thing is to let the child learn sex knowledge in a way that makes him comfortable or comfortable.
Talk at the right time.
Always remember, Children in their teens may do things that you completely unexpected. Don’t expect children to take the initiative to talk to you about this topic. Let children open their hearts and communicate with you about sexual behavior. Be sure to choose the right time. For example, they are going out on a Friday night or they are watching a movie attentively, then obviously these times are not suitable.
Don’t rush through
Teenagers are taught most not to get sexually transmitted diseases, not to get pregnant or to get a girl pregnant. But teenagers want to know more than that. Teenagers should be told as much information as possible, including feelings about sex, thoughts about sex, in a word, to tell teenagers what they really want to know.
Keep the bottom line
Parents are not children’s companions, You don’t have to answer every child’s question, When it comes to your life and past history, Parents can protect their privacy. Although sharing their stories and experiences with their children can help them think about their choices, But it is also important to set boundaries by telling your child what and not what. If you decide to share your experiences with your child but don’t want them to be known by others, let your child keep them secret. This can help your child set his own bottom line, which is important for his future sexual health.