Will it affect children’s independence to sleep in separate rooms too late? See what the psychological consultant said

During the growth of their children, I believe many parents have experienced a perplexity-considering how and when to sleep in separate rooms with their children. Let’s discuss some topics related to sleeping in separate rooms. Will sleeping in separate rooms affect children’s independence? According to some experiences, Parents sleep with their children for a long time, It may bring some obstacles to children’s independence. In fact, There is not necessarily a direct connection between the two. Looking back on our childhood, Many people have no conditions to sleep in separate rooms at home, but parents may pay attention to cultivating our independence in other aspects. In fact, it cannot be simply said that sleeping in separate rooms will lead to children’s independence in the future. It is a combination of various factors that will affect children’s overall personality development. So, not separating rooms may have what hazards? Sleeping in different rooms may really affect directly, It’s a relationship between husband and wife. Just take good care of the children, It doesn’t mean you can maintain a good family. It is rare for families to fall apart due to children’s ignorance in society, while divorce cases caused by escalating conflicts between husband and wife (especially shortly after delivery) are common. What about the what connection between husband and wife and sleeping in separate rooms with children? The mother roomed with her child, It may prompt mothers to pay more attention to their children, Make the partner feel cold. The child shares the same house with his parents, It directly affects the quality of life of couples. These factors may bring greater risks to the maintenance of family relationships. However, the disharmony of family relationship is one of the biggest obstacles to the development of children’s personality. Therefore, no matter the time, children have their own independent space to sleep, which should have more advantages than disadvantages for the children themselves and the relationship between husband and wife. It is more appropriate to sleep in separate rooms in what? After the age of 2 to before the age of 4 is a more appropriate time. Children aged 4 to 6 are in [sexual bud stage]. In other words, At this age, Children begin to have curiosity and preliminary knowledge about the gender of men and women. If you don’t sleep in separate rooms after the age of 4, It is likely to cause some troubles to the development of children’s sexual cognition. Sleeping in separate rooms too early before the age of 2, There will also be certain risks. At this time, the child will have a strong psychological [breast-feeding dependence], But also does not have strong self-care ability. Forcing children to sleep in a room too early, It may cause a lack of security for children, It may even affect the sound personality development in the future. On the other hand, When the child is slightly older (about 3 years old), The situation has stabilized, This is actually the best time to repair the relationship between husband and wife. Before that, Parents may focus most of their attention on their children, Neglect the relationship with the partner. At this point in time, the couple tried to find the spark of love for each other again. It is very conducive to the stability of family relations, And a harmonious family relationship is more conducive to the healthy development of children’s personality. Let’s go back to the setting of the time point for sleeping in separate rooms. In fact, There is no definite answer to this question. Whether it is 2-3 years old or 3-4 years old depends on whether children and parents have made corresponding preparations, such as house decoration, children’s furniture, children’s and parents’ psychological preparation and whether children learn necessary life skills. What preparations should be made before dividing the house? Generally speaking, As self-awareness develop, About three years old, Children will gradually express their willingness to sleep on their own. It is good for parents to let nature take its course at this time. There is no need to express excessive worries and perseverance, Instead, we need to change our mentality. To be happy with the child’s change, Because it is very common to have independent space. Of course, Before officially freeing up a room for the child to sleep on his own, It is still possible to make some preparations. 1. Teaching children to manage their own internal affairs includes teaching children to fold clothes, make beds, fold quilts, Develop good bedtime habits such as brushing your teeth and changing pajamas before going to bed. At school age, You can also teach your child skills such as packing schoolbags and desks and setting your own alarm. Teach your child a series of necessary skills to master and manage your own life. Is the most practical measure to cultivate independence. 2. Use non-material rewards Material rewards are often bottomless. Today, I will reward a small toy. Perhaps more valuable toys will be needed tomorrow to get the same incentive effect. But non-material rewards, Such as verbal compliments, hugs, kisses, May be the best and most effective way to express parents’ approval of their children, Timeliness often lasts longer than material rewards. 3. Hardware configurations such as preparation beds, wardrobes and tables on the hardware should conform to the size of the child’s age. Try not to use adult furniture at the beginning. If the child is younger, It is also necessary to stick soft cushions at the edges and corners of hard objects to prevent unnecessary accidents. Parents with conditions can also install walkie-talkies or wireless cameras in their rooms. So that you can find out in time when there is danger at night. Of course, don’t use it when the child is older, and respect the privacy of the child. Other aspects of the configuration can be flexibly changed according to the different situations of each family, which will not be repeated here. What if the child is unwilling? If parents say they want to sleep in separate rooms, what if the children do not agree? Here, depending on the problem, I give three suggestions to parents who encounter this kind of situation. I hope I can help you. 1. Split the bed before the room is divided. The baby shares the bed with the parents. Increases the risk of sudden infant death syndrome, In fact, when the child is just born, it is more recommended that parents and children share beds and rooms. Children are reluctant to share rooms. Perhaps it is because I have not realized that having independent space is a very happy thing. Sleep in separate beds, In fact, children themselves are more comfortable. It is suggested to choose to sleep in separate beds first. It may be easier to divide the house when the child is older. 2. Communicate with the child on an equal footing. It also includes the need for parents to pay attention to treating themselves equally. You can’t sacrifice your demands unconditionally for the wishes of your children. This is actually not good for the whole family. In the end, it may endanger the growth of children. 3. Gentle and firm attitude Children may suddenly want to sleep with their parents again one day. It is normal to have this kind of repetition. Once in a while, but if there are no special circumstances, parents should gently and firmly refuse their children’s requests and express their wishes to sleep on their own. This is conducive to the establishment of parents’ prestige and sense of rules in family education, and reduces the chances of children making trouble without reason in the future.