Tag: Parenting

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Is it really easier to be a [full-time parent]?

Editor’s Note: This content comes from the round table activity of “Methodology for Raising Two Children” jointly organized by Dr. Clove and Zhihu. Click to view the details of the activity. Is the so-called relatively relaxed and [relative] standard what? If you cannot say clearly, the answer will inevitably vary. Therefore, I think that to say clearly whether it is easy or not, the key is to look at three factors. 1. Is there enough motivation Employees of start-up companies are generally very busy, but because they have enough motivation or interest as motivation, they will feel very happy even though they are busy. Similarly, different people have different talents and interests. If they like children very much and are Read More …

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China does not lack excellent mothers, what it lacks is normal mothers.

The daughter is four years old. Of course, in the eyes of her family, she cannot be more beautiful or better. Her friends praised the party every day for its adoration, beauty and intelligence. However, apart from these praises that cannot be taken too seriously, her daughter has yet to show what’s extraordinary talent, nor has she seen the beautiful virtue that other children in what do not have. Therefore, my article is definitely not a successful case of child-rearing, but the growth experience of an ordinary mother. If you are a perfectionist and planning maniac, being a mother is the most desperate job in the world. Not only because children saliva, snot and scribble, but also because they are Read More …

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Boys want to be poor? How much enmity do parents have with their children…

As the saying goes, “Boys are poor and girls are rich”, which is also a consensus of many parents in China. However, it is inappropriate to measure education with the literal meaning of “poor” and “rich”. Is what the poor? [Poor Support] Not Poor Money Some parents simply believe that [poor support] is to let boys lead a little miserable life and to be financially restrained by boys. For example, similar family conditions, the gifts that boys want or the wishes they want to achieve may be more difficult than girls. For example, many parents will also follow the policy of “poor support” for boys’ pocket money, giving less, or completely linking pocket money with housework. Such restrictions on material Read More …

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After having babies, the quality of life obviously declined? That’s because you haven’t read this article yet.

Raising babies must be tiring, but if the situation is so bad that people feel that [the quality of life has plummeted] [the negative emotions are very heavy], then I think the top priority is not self-enlightenment, but to find ways to improve the quality of life. As a human being born to covet enjoyment, I have been studying how to raise babies easily and happily since I was pregnant. At present, my son is 15 months old, healthy, lively and good-tempered, eats more than me, sleeps better than pigs, and runs faster than rabbits. My aunts in the family lament that they have never seen such a good baby. My personal feeling is that the first three months are Read More …

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Wrapping a blanket can make the baby sleep longer, but it is also more dangerous! Please look at the infant guide recommended by Americans.

Ding Ma said (Micro Signal: Dingxiangmami) In the past, there were always grandmothers and grandmothers with babies in the community. One of the most effective ways to let the baby sleep long was to pick up the baby, that is, to wrap it in swaddling clothes. In fact, in the United States, about 4,000 infants die of sudden infant death syndrome (SIDS) every year, and wrapping infants in swaddling clothes while sleeping will increase the risk of sudden death by 50-60%. Are these figures shocking? In fact, it is risky for a baby to wrap in swaddling clothes. It will reduce the child’s perception ability to a certain extent. The baby will be less disturbed and will naturally sleep soundly Read More …

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Reading Picture Books: Beware of Strangers’ Help

Children like to be noticed by others, and they are often very enthusiastic about the appreciation and help from the outside world. This is not bad at all, but it is easy to be used by hostile people. What should adults do if they ask their children to lead the way, help find people or pets, etc. What if the other party is a bad person with no good intentions? Should how teach children to identify bad strangers so as to ensure their personal safety? In order to give children a good childhood, Dr. Clove gave parents the following advice: 1. Parents should clearly tell their children that when strangers ask for help, they must first understand whether they have Read More …

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Reading Picture Books: Protect Yourself First When Meet Bad People

Every child is born as an angel, with a strong sense of right and wrong and a sense of responsibility. He will feel aggrieved when meeting bad people. However, because children are too young to weigh, they are likely to hurt themselves when doing good deeds. In order to protect children from taking drugs by mistake, Dr. Clove gave parents the following advice: Parents should pay attention to let their children know that what is illegal, what was wrong, Set up children’s correct view of right and wrong from an early age. For young children, Parents should educate their children how to protect themselves, When it comes to bad people and bad things, The first thing to do is to Read More …

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Reading Picture Books: Don’t Walk Alone at Night

Children are fond of playing and often play until dark, but it is quite dangerous for children to walk alone at night in the dark and are easily hurt by some bad people. In order to avoid tragedy, Dr. Clove gave parents the following advice: It is best not to let the child go home alone. At ordinary times, children should be taught to know some important alarm calls. If there is a fire, call 119, meet bad people, call 110, and find physical injury or acute illness, call 120. Educate children to be calm and articulate when calling the police, so that the other party can quickly understand the place where the incident occurred and the seriousness of the Read More …

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Nagging all day does not make children obedient! The rules should be so established.

As the saying goes, there are family rules in the family, and many parents like to say “no”, but can these “no” really stand the test of time and not contradict themselves? After careful consideration, parents will find that many of their [cannot] are forbidden for the sake of prohibition. Not only are there no principles to follow, no memory, but also it is difficult to sum up important values. At this time, I am afraid we will have to examine our [principle] concept and make changes in due course. Small example: When I went to the restaurant for dinner, my mother said, “Don’t wriggle around in your seat all the time. You are not a caterpillar.” When I went Read More …

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Do you often have bad emotions when taking children? Happy mothers all know these magic weapons for decompression.

Before every woman became a mother, we all fantasized that if we gave birth to a daughter, we would have a more intimate best friend, and if we gave birth to a son, we would have a more flower protector. I think about it, and I think the future is very beautiful! However, in the first year after giving birth to a child, too many mothers have expressed such a heartfelt wish: only after giving birth can they know how bad life is. I was a victim When I was a child, I also suffered [injuries]. I walked all the way from a key high school to a key university, and everyone praised my mother for her good child-rearing and Read More …