Tag: Education

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Six Suggestions for Parents of Second Child: Help [Dabao] Accept [Er Bao]

With the gradual opening of the two-child policy, the current situation can be said to be that some people are happy and others are sad. For example, the following example is more typical. A Mother’s Question 问题: My son is three years old, and I gave birth to another daughter in August this year. Before we conceived, we did a lot of ideological work for our son, but it didn’t work very well. Without fully doing the work, I was pregnant with a second child. Now we buy anything for our daughter, and our son won’t let us use it. We all say it belongs to him. What should we do? 应对: STEP 1 Hit To be honest, I beat Read More …

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Guide to Baby Care for 3 ~ 6 Months: How to Lay a Good Foundation? When do you see a doctor?

For babies and parents who have been together for some time, From meeting each other for the first time to getting familiar with each other, Both sides have studied hard. Most babies aged 3-6 months like to stay with their parents very much. At this stage, parents can also understand the information transmitted by the baby most of the time and properly solve the initial feeding difficulties and crying problems. At this time, there will be more communication between the baby and parents, which is an important stage for the baby to begin to become familiar with the world. How can we help the baby at this stage to develop better? What activities are suitable for them? Should what consult Read More …

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Will the baby spoil him when he cries?

As a new mother, what should you do when the baby cries? Many people may have told you their clever plan. Among such suggestions, the most destructive one is: [Let the baby cry enough]. This advice rarely works, but it is very common. If blindly followed, it will usually only make the mother numb and cause undue cracks between the mother and the child. Many studies have found that the more time babies spend with their parents, the better the parent-child relationship will develop. Mothers should not make their children cry enough, but they should not always make it an obligation to stop crying. There are no specific regulations on whether or not to let the child cry and how Read More …

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What should I do when my child is upset? (2)

There were two points in front (what should I do when the child is in a mood? (Part I)), let’s continue to talk. 3. Timely Control of Children We need to give children room to control and adjust their emotions, so that children can get exercise and study, and also let children get a sense of autonomy. However, when children lose control of their emotions and lose control of themselves, adults need to help control them immediately. This is the protection of children: On the one hand, children should not be allowed to do stupid things to hurt themselves, such as not being able to harm themselves, or throwing cups to cause fragments to hurt themselves; On the other hand, Read More …

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What should I do when my child is upset? (Part I)

Children are upset, which is believed to be something every parent will encounter. How should you deal with the [unreasonable] Xiong Haizi? What principles do you need to stick to? According to the importance of each principle and the degree to which it is easy to be ignored, Dr. Clove recommends the following principles to parents. Step 1 Take care of yourself first The reason why this article is put first is that it is very easy to ignore and crucial. Similar to the safety instructions on the plane, when the oxygen mask falls down, adults with children should quickly wear it for themselves before wearing it for their children. It takes wisdom to help children deal with emotions, However, Read More …

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Dabao is not good to Er Bao. It’s not that he doesn’t understand. In fact, it’s all the parents’ fault.

Editor’s Note: Not long ago, there was a news report that a 13-year-old girl was extremely capricious because she was spoiled by her family. After learning that her mother was pregnant with a second child, she forced her parents to give up her second child by suicide. In the end, her mother had to choose to have a baby. Although some parents may not be willing to admit it, from the psychological theory of family relations, Dabao’s resistance to the two treasures is the whole blame, but in fact it is still up to parents to bear the blame. This pot is divided into two types: Short-term pot: Parents failed in their communication with Dabao in the event that Dabao Read More …

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Boys want to be poor? How much enmity do parents have with their children…

As the saying goes, “Boys are poor and girls are rich”, which is also a consensus of many parents in China. However, it is inappropriate to measure education with the literal meaning of “poor” and “rich”. Is what the poor? [Poor Support] Not Poor Money Some parents simply believe that [poor support] is to let boys lead a little miserable life and to be financially restrained by boys. For example, similar family conditions, the gifts that boys want or the wishes they want to achieve may be more difficult than girls. For example, many parents will also follow the policy of “poor support” for boys’ pocket money, giving less, or completely linking pocket money with housework. Such restrictions on material Read More …

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This [Lord Bear], please don’t tease my children like this.

Parents may have experienced their children being teased by relatives or friends around them. You will not be unfamiliar with the following words: [Your mother is going to have a little brother and will not love you in the future! ] [You were picked up by your mother from the garbage.] [Let me hug you, I’ll take you to eat delicious food! ] … … In this article, we call these relatives and friends [Lord Bear]. Why? Because the practices of these relatives and friends are likely to bring some harm to the children’s psychology and even bring a crisis of trust to the whole family. As a parent, due to his partiality, he is embarrassed to directly refuse these Read More …

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These four methods of educating children are not helpful to you.

Threatening Safety Education Parents are most concerned about their children’s life safety, but the most common practice for parents in China is to use various exaggerated horror stories to educate their children on safety. But intimidation will erect a barrier to children’s growth. When I was carrying out safety education for first-grade children, I found that when I asked [why can’t I do this], the answer was polarized: One answer is [because bad people will hurt you/burn you/electrocute you/burn you to death] and the other is [because bad people may hurt you/electrical appliances will make your face ugly, you have to take injections and medicine, you are also very uncomfortable/fire will burn your new clothes out, and you have to Read More …

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Nagging all day does not make children obedient! The rules should be so established.

As the saying goes, there are family rules in the family, and many parents like to say “no”, but can these “no” really stand the test of time and not contradict themselves? After careful consideration, parents will find that many of their [cannot] are forbidden for the sake of prohibition. Not only are there no principles to follow, no memory, but also it is difficult to sum up important values. At this time, I am afraid we will have to examine our [principle] concept and make changes in due course. Small example: When I went to the restaurant for dinner, my mother said, “Don’t wriggle around in your seat all the time. You are not a caterpillar.” When I went Read More …